Because men don’t see the emotional work. Women are socialized from birth to recognize and respond to it. Men are not. The effort to bring men up to speed is exhausting. You talk and talk and talk until you’re blue in the face, hoping for one *aha* moment, and when it happens, they expect a freaking trophy because…

But part of the problem is that asking is part of the emotional work. Recognizing that it needs to be done, planning it, delegating tasks, all of that goes unseen.

If you want to work things out that way, you should be able to choose to. But what needs to stop happening is men assuming that women will pull the bulk of this weight simply because they don’t feel like learning how, and devaluing the time, effort and energy that goes into it. Men constantly assume that women will…

Emotional expectations for men are created by men. Emotional expectations for women are also created by men. Feminists are working on this, but if you want to see change, women aren’t the people you need to snark at.

Man, I wish I was a guy. I would give fucking anything to care less. Caring and doing all this menial, stupid emotional work is fucking exhausting.

I blame the English language. It’s not Natasha’s fault that “All you can eat” can be singular or plural (and boo to Denny’s for taking advantage of the ambiguity). This wouldn’t have happened in Shakespeare’s day. When the tavern had an “All thou canst eat” special, everybody knew it only meant thee, not thy whole…

She was pure fucking evil, man. I knew someone who worked there... She also fired a woman for crying on the job after losing her husband and kid in a car accident, and only being allowed to take 3 bereavement days. Was fired because she couldn’t “keep her home and work life separate.”

During a JOB INTERVIEW.

I just started a new job a week ago. Went to a training day a couple of days ago but everyone else on the training day had been in their post a few months, as opposed to four days. I hadn’t even been put on the company system or had any of the documents and I didn’t know any of the job terminology or have access to…

On a commuter train home. I was reading the final book in a series I loved and it seemed as if the beloved main character was dead. I was legit sobbing. Don’t judge me, I get really attached to book characters.

yeah, because it’s not like guys who are drawn to football are also drawn to misogyny and violence. *eye rolling*

No, but white people’s internal, sometimes unconscious biases can lead them to lack empathy for Black people and sympathize with people who look like them. White people’s lack of experience facing a lifetime of systemic racism and receiving different treatment from the police also makes them less likely to believe…

I think most people eventually learn that their parents, particularly their mothers, are not the most objective source for such information. My mother thinks I’m so beautiful that she’s convinced I could have modeled (I’m 5’3”) or been a movie star. “You look like Natalie Portman, but prettier!” (Ed. note: No I…

Good point, Recreational Internet Commenter

Okay so let me explain the budget in a way you ladies can understand. You know how when you use the herbal essence on hair and it makes you so happy you make the orgasm sounds which always makes me laugh cause there is no female orgasm? Well that’s how I want to feel about the money the U.S. has. Or to put it simply I…

After my parents divorced, my mom finished up an engineering degree at around 40 years old. I remember attending her classes when I was sick and she couldn’t get a babysitter. I think about that now and I’m so happy she chose to go to class rather than skip it, even if it meant embarrassment or possibly bothering her…

Felons should have the right to vote. Youtube commentors? there might be an argument for disenfranchising them.

My mother told me from a young age she didn’t expected me to have children or even get married. She wanted me to choose whatever I was comfortable with and live the life that made me happy and comfortable.

Also: Who is she wearing?

I have a real question for the Virginia Woolf scholar: