when are we going to stop thinking it’s funny to make fun of a pregnant woman’s body/her obvious discomfort with her pregnant body just because we’ve decided she’s someone who isn’t worthy of basic decency?

I am a month and a half out from an extremely violent rape perpetrated by a friend. I went to a wedding. I got tipsy. I asked to go home. I was bitten, beaten, raped and burnt instead. I’m 37. I wasn’t doing anything crazy to “earn” what happened. I can’t wait for a slut walk in my area. I’ll wear the long dress and…

It’s not insecurity. Both of their ex’s and their families have bashed them and called them bad mother’s for not toning down their image. While both of the guy’s are out there doing much worse, like dating underage girls.

I get what they are trying to show

I have mixed feelings about this, as a teacher and parent. First things first- the director handled this the wrong way. Dead wrong.

........................................”Overwhelming Demand”

This crazy lady didn’t even want the parents to meet with each other.

From what I’ve experienced with the NYC equivalents of this school, parents are expected to have a very high level of involvement - volunteering the classroom, bringing snacks, donating on top of the extremely high monthly tuition and extra fees, etc. It’s not exactly stepping out of bounds for parents to try to…

Rape is also a crime of power, where the victim feels helpless and out of control. Telling themselves that it was their own fault is a very common way of taking power back; changing the narrative so that the situation was due to their own actions - even wrong ones- allows them to feel like they aren’t so powerless.

He was great but he wasn’t the first therapist I tried. I’d been to two others and was at least 5 years post rape when I went to him. He specialized in traumatic events and PTSD so he was exactly what I needed.

That is very compassionate, thank you. I sort of ignored the whole fact that she is a victim when I blacked out and saw red at what she was saying.

Oh man. I’m a little bit older than Chrissie and I grew up with that same bullshit, victim-blaming message drilled into my head — and boy was it drilled into us. I got over it. Fwiw, I was also raped (back in the 80s) and I tried really hard to blame myself, but my therapist wouldn’t let me get by with that.

Chrissy Hynde, I doubt you’re reading this, but...it wasn’t your fault.

Christianity is apparently like Choose Your Own Adventure. She can pick out the stuff she likes (hating gays, long denim skirts) and ignore the stuff she doesn’t (divorce is bad).

I still don’t understand how someone who has been married four times can say with a straight face that it undermines her religious beliefs to allow gay people to marry.

Tone policing black women is pretty damn white, and if you don’t want to be lumped in with Miley, maybe don’t engage in it yourself?

Oh hey, Charlie! Didn’t know you frequented these parts of the Internetz!