Except many accounts of the Stonewall riots suggest they were started in part by trans women of color and drag queens who very explicitly made common cause with trans folk more so than other gay men (see Marsha P. Johnson and STAR for reference). One of the main organizers of the Christipher Street Liberation Day…

I don’t get it, why so many umbrellas? Who needs more than one umbrella? Is Christ full of holes or some... Oh. Wait. Got it.

The organizers, a group called the Allued Veteran's War Council, released this statement when negotiations over including a gay group broke down: "We will not allow anyone to express harmful or inappropriate messages. This was a decision we made for the good of this parade. Keep in mind, we are approached by all types…

I am gay. What I want is to not have to constantly go through the mental process of sussing out whether or not people approve of my relationship. I want them to stfu and do their job. I don't really care what's in their hearts. I want laws that allow me access to all of the goods and services that are accessible to…

I feel ya. I enjoy relationships with healthy boundaries, lots of alone time, and my own damn space. And at my age and given my demographic for dating (mainly 30-something lesbians), the "I am only interested in auditioning you for live-in life partner and co-parent" vibe can be unbelievable. So weeding that out from…

Yeah, you never know, he could still react badly, but it sounds like probably he'd find it more than worthwhile to talk about. And if he deserves you, he'll be happy that you are sharing your experiences with him.

I feel like the dating process in general would be a whole lot better if we stopped thinking of "limiting my dating options" as a negative thing. You want to weed out people who are not right for you. The ability to do that before investing time in someone is one of the really nice things about online dating.

And also…

Lots of folks have already given you great advice. I would just like to add that, not only was the guy discriminating against your husband on the basis of disability and arguably veteran status, but he is someone in charge of physical training for children who does not care to make adjustments to his plans when a…

Aw, thanks, though I really don't deserve kudos for just being a decent and caring human being to my dates. :)

I am also female-bodied, and I'm queer, and so based on my own experiences I agree that having any axis of marginalization can (though doesn't always) make one more apt to notice and also be receptive to other…

Latina durr.

I dunno, it depends but if he's the kind of white dude who will think you have race issues for merely talking about your experiences within an interracial relationship, probably there are deeper problems with him anyway.

Have done a lot of interracial dating, am white and have dated Latino and Black women. We always…

This kind of thing happened to me too, in 9th grade. To this day I consider that experience the main reason I psyched myself out of going into science instead of social science when science is my real love.

When I tell people about it, so many people act shocked that it was so blatant, but I think that kind of…

Word. Santa Barbara is surfer-dude central not douchey broville.

Also they based the city's ranking almost entirely on the Halloween parties in IV, so a ton of the bros they're talking about aren't even from SB, or UCSB for that matter. SB just has a once-yearly bro-magnet, you guys, it's not the same thing.

Not a lawyer but know some about this. Hawaii ruled in favor of marriage equality on pretty much exactly those grounds all the way back in 1993. I know a lot of fellow activists are hopeful based on Kennedy's comment that this might be what happens, though I expect it would be grounds cited only by Kennedy, as the…

Also, I mentioned on another thread that I'm trying to make a point of recommending posts from people who are LGBT-identified or allies, and following them, in the hopes that we can get some more voices out of the gray who will speak up when this kind of thing happens. I'm not an expert on the commenting system here…

No, you're getting called out for the awful things you're saying and trying to do a sleight of hand by denying what you said and then moving the goal posts of the argument. It's a pretty standard tactic and it's really quite obvious.

Yeah, someone on another thread called ENDA a "shiny bauble." Just, wow, the privilege. Shorter this entire comment section: "What, you actually want, like, all the same rights as us? Whoa now, that's a step too far!!!"

We vote in roughly the same proportion as straight people and are disproportionately active donors to political candidates, including Obama, despite the fact that, on average, we have less income than straight people.

He has not handed those firsts to us, we have fought long and hard for them, just like we are fighting for an executive order protecting LGBT federal employees now.

Your response here is so brutally condescending. It's like you don't realize these accomplishments have happened because of the extremely hard work and…

"Presidents are going to have to deal with more than one thing at a time. It is not necessary for us to think we can do only one thing and suspend everything else." - Barack Obama, 2008

We don't have to be at the head of the line to have our issues heard. Agreed that marriage equality isn't the end-all be-all, even for…