I'm glad to hear that and glad that you're there for your granddaughter as well :)

But, my daughter is my priority, not men. I don't want a bunch of people parading in and out.

I am so sorry that happened to you. I'm even more sorry that you didn't have someone you could trust who believed you. I believe you. I believe your sister. I believe all survivors. None of this shit was our fault. Shame on our families for not believing us or helping us, for not taking us seriously and for failing…

The denial that people have about the actions of abusers is incredible. I began opening up recently to a couple family members about how my grandfather molested me when I was younger and my sister denies my own experience and explains it away defensively. My own mother demands "why did you never tell me this?!" as if…

I know more women who have done this than I'm comfortable admitting. In a larger sense it's growing up in a world with the message that women are shit and lesser than a man, a man's opinion and validation of you is everything and you're nothing without a man. That bullshit stops with me so if I ever have kids they are…

Also looking outside yourself for validation and fulfillment which never works, at least not in the long term.

In my mother's case it was low-self-esteem, loneliness and the message she grew up with in the 60's that you're nothing without a man, that she passed down to her daughters. I unlearned that bullshit a couple years ago and am better off for it.

I just...I don't understand. Is having a man, any man, more important than the health, safety, love, and well being of your children?

Man, I feel all of this

I love that! I hope I'm a fan of hers for a long time. I hope that if I have children, at least one of them shares my love for her as I do with the music my parents love. My mum used to play a lot of Sarah McLachlan when I was growing up and her music is so special to me. I bought tickets for my mum's birthday and I'm…

YAY! Your friends sound like good people. I have never been as involved in a fandom as I have with Taylor Swift but the people are the kind that I need more of in my life, especially right now so I'm jumping in with both feet and not looking back.

I feel like I'm gonna be a Tay supporter well into my 50's. I hope to be at her shows with my future kids. I have judged myself far too often for being a 30-something Tay fan but a friend (who teaches part-time anatomy classes at a university near my work) stopped by wearing a skeleton/muscle body full-body cat-suit…

She's being cared for and protected and I think it's why I feel a lot better now :)

I smell a Kickstarter for a reality rehab show (hosted by Dr. Drew of course) for Stage Moms/Momagers. Dina, Mama June, and Kris and who else?

This is one of my favorite posts. We've all been Tan Shen. You do whatever you need to, girl. May the bosom of mama Adele be forever there for you:

Oh man, I remember after my first heartbreak, I wandered the city for approximately a month. I felt like I would have rather been shot with an elephant gun straight through the heart than feel that kind of pain and betrayal (he cheated on me with woman in our bed after 4 years of living together - I could smell her on…

Thanks so much, I definitely have and am relaxing into my skin just lately. It took 16 long years but at 32 I am in a great place and feel strong enough and comfortable with myself to take on whatever life throws at me. You sound like a good parent, and you remindme of the approach my mom took. She was as supportive…

She's 13 in this video? She looks older, always has.

LOL I was never this upbeat. I was pretty fucked up and suicidal so as annoying as she is, it's nice to see.

I'm so excited as well and it's so nice to be able to (I hate this term but) fan-girl out to something even though I'm 32 years old. I grew up too quickly through a traumatic childhood so it's nice to have a handful of things to get silly-excited about like music I would have listened to in my youth and early 20's.…