I have a mother with possibly fatal chronic health issues, so believe me I know how hard it can be, but you really don't want to rush into marriage. Give yourselves the time you had agreed on.

I realize this is going to sounds bitchy, but please believe me when I say I don't mean it to be:

"I'm sorry, I can't make it because x," is fine. "I'm soooooo sorry please don't hate me!" is not.

Ehhh... Using an apology to undermine his ability to have an honest reaction comes off as more nefarious than you seem to think.

Wow. That really sucks. I had no idea people had that intense of a sensitivity to it. Thanks for clarifying.

I have a question:

I know. It is one of the many things that makes me ragey.

You had me until I fucking hate the smell of weed and shouldn't be subjected to it.

I feel like a lot of people have misread the point here.

Apparently I am a rare American woman who doesn't constantly say sorry (unless I've actually done something to be sorry for) but that doesn't mean I'm not polite.

That would annoy the hell out of me too. I don't mind my bathroom smelling like weed because the only fabrics it can get into are my bath towels and shower curtain. And even then it doesn't reek it just smells.

+1

Bahahaha +1

But to stereotyping white people it is the same thing!

It probably was not meant as racism. I don't think Joanna's intention was anywhere along the lines of "Let's make fun of asians by painting a white guy yellow and giving him slanty eyes!" I think her intention was "I want my friend in the film. He's white but the only role left is for an asian guy, so we'll just make…

What bothers me even more than the decision to put an actor in yellow face is how Joanna responded to the criticism she received.

The fact that interracial porn still exists as a genre definitely bothers me. The portrayal of black men as being overly sexual, animalistic and "after" white women is disturbing on its own and disgusting when viewed in historical context. Also these portrayals don't exist in a vacuum, they are informed by racist…

Seriously. Part of living in an apartment building is constantly being reminded that you have neighbors. Muffled sex sounds coming through the wall, weird food smells in the hallway, the sound of someone walking in heels in the apartment above you...

Ooh. That makes sense.

My apartment's bathroom constantly smells like weed. Apparently I share an air vent with someone who enjoys a good toke. It never even occurred to me to report them. The most I've ever done is wonder what the hell they're doing awake, let alone smoking, at 3am on a weeknight when I get up to grab a glass of water (I…