It has been used in the D/s world to describe submissive people, even in heterosexual relationships. But it's problematic to conflate being a bottom with submission, and submission with emasculation. I'm a Domme. The guys I've been with are submissive, and that's brave. It's not easy to give up control like that, even…

Yeah, but being a sub isn't emasculating.

You straight-up called it emasculating. It's cool if it was a joke that went over wrong or if it's something you'd now like to take back. But just be an adult about it and admit it was a shitty thing to say. If you're mature about it, you admit you fucked up (everyone does!), apologize, and do better next time. You…

That's a good point, but then what is the right way to figure out what you want to do? Sit around and wait for it to come to you? Do something that makes you miserable?

Yeah, plus it implies that being a bottom is emasculating. Or that being submissive in a relationship if you're a man is emasculating. I thought I was safe from shit like that here.

I know. I've been trying to share the hell out of any article I can find on it.

Oh, did you miss it? We were debating the merits of following a career you actually want to have versus following a career that will make you a bunch of money.

No, I was trying to be understanding in the first post I made, and I said if you meant you in the past, you should have made that clear.

Any real points to make? No? You must be new to debate.

Turned the tables? Like raped her back? I don't see how that would help anything.

I make sure to have regular talks with my 15 year old brother about consent, and with my 13 year old sister. I just try to be laid back about it. It's kind of cool because I'm quite a bit older than both of them, but young enough that we can still talk as equals about these things. Not an authority figure drilling…

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She won't press charges. If she did, she'd have to admit to abusing Jamie and, while that may not get her sent to jail, she'd certainly lose her job and be unable to find work as a teacher or principal again.

You're screaming that this is rape in other comments. It is. Why would you have wanted to continue being raped? I realize you may have felt that way at the time due to brainwashing by an abusive person, but maybe you need to be a little clearer about what you mean.

I'm really sorry that happened to you.

My parents did push me to get a degree in something they thought would be productive and lucrative. It's a degree I don't use. I'm now studying what I wanted to study in the first place and have a few job opportunities already lined up. One of which, I start off making $85,000 a year.

Maybe by tamer they mean "Include actual elements of BDSM with a real dominant character and not an abusive psycho." Maybe?

I get where you're coming from, but this guy is an adult. He should know that it's unacceptable to behave this way. It shouldn't have happened and there's no right way for a woman to respond to things like this.
If she had called him out, it could have escalated. Or maybe they were going to be interacting in a…

I'm no Facebook scholar, but I'm pretty sure this is a private message between the two of them, and "random" people can't see those, so far as I know. So either he or she took the screencaps and shared them.

Sensitive? What about the people who are saying, "I don't want to look at it."? They're the ones being sensitive. If you don't like it, look away.
And it's not overly-sensitive to expect respectful behavior from adult human beings. If you think that's illogical, you should work on maturing yourself instead of insulting…