Your kid should not wear an Indian headdress for Halloween because it is racist. Nor should they call an American Indian a "redskin."

I 100% love this idea and may or may not steal it from you in the unlikely event that I eventually manage to procreate.

It's possible that you are being catcalled, but you just don't notice it. A lot of women start to get really aggressive attention at a young age, so we become hyper-aware of it and notice it even in subtle forms forever after. By contrast, I've witnessed a couple of friends being catcalled who didn't know it had…

I judge people by the diversity I can see at their weddings. If you have 150 people coming to celebrate and no black or brown faces, I judge you. A lot of my white friends fail this test.

+1 for your comment, but +1000 for your username. I wants it.

I'm not going to let anyone forget it. "Oh, you wanna watch the World Cup? Cool, but don't root for Brazil. Why? They let their players chop up women and feed them to their dogs." Every single time I talk to someone about the World Cup, a variation of this story is going to come out of my mouth. If Brazil wants the…

I think you misunderstood the OP's argument. Two points that may help clarify some of the responses you will probably receive:
1. On this site, most of us agree that average women are perfectly sexy, and we also agree that most straight men find normal women attractive. You may have meant well by telling us that most…

Aaaaah! That is the cutest thing on the Internet! If I'd seen that in real life, I would never have stopped laughing. I'm in a much better place now than I was last week, but this is still the most perfect Friday GIF I have ever seen. Thank you for brightening my day. :)

Definitely did not roll my eyes. I don't begrudge you a surprise 30th birthday party. In fact, you sound like you deserved it.

I didn't think of it in that context, but you're almost certainly right. If you teach a 12-year-old that it's acceptable for a total stranger to police whether she wears underwear, how is she going to develop the framework to know when she's being manipulated or judged unfairly as an adult?

Back when I did martial arts, the senseis would have the men line up during testing and check to make sure they were wearing cups with a quick prod to the crotch. The theory was basically, "You're almost certain to be kneed in the nuts during the fighting portion of this test, so let's sort this out now while your…

Noooo, not the re-angry! Fight it! (Unless they're still in your lives and taking advantage of you, in which case do what you've got to do.)

I'm betting at a minimum that if they catch her, they'll shame her into disrobing in front of the congregation to remove her God-blocking items. Doubtful she'll get her undergarments back at the end of service, so heaven forbid she only owns one bra.

How long until the pastor himself is checking each woman personally to see whether they deserve these "grave consequences"?

Thanks for that. They've promised to make it up to me (their words), so we'll see what that involves. I'm trying to sit back and let it happen while simultaneously keeping my expectations low. I certainly don't expect them to orchestrate more whizbangs and fireworks than I had planned for the original event — I just…

I think in this particular case, I put a few too many emotions into the original comment and gave the impression that I was going to actually be rude to my friends, or whine about it in front of them and demand that they drop everything to attend to me, which wasn't ever going to happen. I got a few responses from…

It made perfect sense. Thanks for taking the time to write all that, I appreciate both the sympathy and the buck-up-iness in equal measure.

You know best, so if that's your instinct, by all means obey it.

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. I'm so sorry you went through that, it sounds really rough. It's impossible for me to "logic away my hurt," as you put it. What I feel tends to show up on my face, and I'm one of those people who cries when I'm tired, or sad, or angry — I desperately want to lock it…

Thanks for this. The "treat people how you want to be treated" sword cuts both ways in this instance. If I were in their shoes, and suffering, and I made a mistake that hurt a friend, I would feel awful, and I would want the hurt friend to be forgiving and understanding of the fact that I would never knowingly have…