omg I read that as “3rd grade porno” and wondered what kind of fucked up elementary school you went to.

HELL TO THE NO would I ever let my vagina be probed in a room full of peers. But also - there is a gender imbalance there in the training. Men don’t have the right equipment, so if they’re in the class, they’re exempt from the icky icky special credit? It’s fucked up. Are there classes where men are getting prostate…

I had a bunch of transvaginal ultrasounds prior to some surgery a few years back. I was always asked if I preferred to insert the probe myself and in one case the tech’s comments led me to believe this was legally required(?) so I’d be interested to know what the legalities surrounding this are.

No. I don’t know why they’re claiming it’s a common thing. I’m in med school and we occasionally do non-invasive things on each other: listening with stethoscopes, ear and eye exams, blood pressure, etc. But we would never, ever be asked to submit to an invasive procedure like this. We have standardized patients who…

For real, this though. I just can't imagine having all my peers up in my junk and then having to like...have a study group with them.

I have gotten countless vaginal ultrasounds in the last 3 years, and not once have they EVER had to “sexually stimulate” me in order to get the scan. Like, at all. Like AT ALL. It would go right in, without anything inappropriate or awkward, beyond me apologizing that my body is always like, “haha no not again” and…

That and the faculty member saying the student should be an “escort girl” were the creepiest parts.

Is this actually commonplace? My best friend is in med school and for stuff like this (basically anything involving genitalia men or women) they have paid volunteers. Like people who literally get paid to be test subjects for them.

Honestly I thought even Florida was above shit like this.

This whole thing is horrifying, but what the holy hell is happening with this sentence in particular?

I suggest you (and others who have similar reservations) reread the article and check out the Des Moines Register’s coverage of this case.

They may want sex, it’s a normal human desire, but when consent is questionable, especially by multiple medical professionals I side with the professionals.

My mom cannot keep track of what is going on in a conversation for more than maybe 4 words and she’s not even at the needing a nursing home stage. I know many people think this is between a man and his wife but unless you have dealt with dementia you cannot begin to understand how little the patient may be able to…

I do not have conflicted feelings about this. I’m watching my grandfather die of dementia and I’ve watched a friend’s mother die of Alzheimer’s. Basically what happens is that you starve to death because your organs can’t remember how to eat. So, no, you are really not in any shape to be consenting to sex. Or if you…

Also, since Donna believe her late husband was alive, it could have been very traumatic to have another man (her current husband) have sex with her.

And this part:

I just read this article and some of the comments. On the one hand, there is a legitimate issue of nursing homes not recognizing or being uncomfortable with the sexuality and sexual behaviors of their residents, and part of that is surely that we stop thinking of people as being interested in sex once they become…

Well in the case of residents who cannot consent to sex that’s exactly what they should be enforcing. No one is entitled to sex with a person who can’t consent, even if they are married to that person.

i initially did, but i think this is another form of marital rape. gross. fuck this guy.