I will always be on the side of people who are finding out who they really are, and who can be at peace with that. Best wishes to Don.

You remind me of a very good point - not all transitions go smoothly. Thanks.

I very much hope that's the case. Either way, he's got a whole lot going on right now and I hope he's got the support in his life that he needs. I am all for people coming to be at peace with themselves, and I know that sometimes what you thought you wanted you didn't.

I've lost touch with enough people that I want to encourage them to get in touch with me if they see the photo and remember who I am.

This is a rather surreal story. My cynical side suspects a potential multi-year "discredit the trans" campaign with a significant payout coming from a morally "upright" businessman with more money than god. I'm being crazy, right?

Aah no it's stealing mah blood!

There is no possible way I could over-rate what I have now. None. And anyone who says it's over-rated can kiss my ass. Not only could I never "settle" now, I could never put anyone through that again. I felt like the world's biggest asshole when I left my first husband. Never again.

Because when you ask a mother to "meet you half-way", it's disingenuous. You expect her to do all the "meeting" and make no movement yourself. And as others have pointed out, would you like to eat dinner with a blanket over your head because someone may find your face distasteful? Where does it end?

All the cookies for your daughter! Yay!

She didn't ask him to start, either, ffs.

Thank you for this discussion - truly. :)

While there's some validity to your comment, I found the way you framed it ("doesn't help us women who are single") to be off-putting.

Occasionally I want people to be able to find me, though, and message me. Why should I punish myself or those people just to attempt to stave off a problem caused by creepers?

I would totally be behind firing with prejudice for this particular FA. She should change careers to something that doesn't involve dealing with people.

I have to admit I'm slightly baffled. Are you saying that it's okay, because some people are just jerks, and that the woman who was disrespected by someone wearing an AA uniform should just shut up because there will always be jerks and no one can do anything about it?

Also, it seems to be a word reserved for redheads. I'm a dark brunette, and "feisty" has never been a word used to describe me.

I've been replying to him, which promotes it black, but then I've been trying to re-gray as I go.

You seem to think you're owed something - in this case, a "defense of views" against your trolling. Here's a hint: No one owes you anything.

No problem ever got fixed for not having anyone know about it. Americans are ridiculously uptight about breastfeeding while pretending breasts aren't on display around them 24/7.

I have all kinds of sympathy for people who can admit they've screwed up and will work to not screw up in that way again in the future. We're all human. I'll recommend The Gift of Fear to you, too - it's a really fabulous book about learning to trust our best informer: our intuition.