Please do not fail to negotiate because you are a woman. We women do negotiate in a more hostile environment than men because our gender role is to be self-sacrificing rather than self-serving. What all of us fail to see is that we're negotiating every day. We all - men and women - hesitate to negotiate for fear we'll…

It's 107th on the list, maybe the jeans and t-shirts are the reason - Dickstein, Shapiro

And please lose the tie that time-travelled with you from 1972.

One more comment - I simply can't resist. DO YOU SEE WHAT MEN WEAR TO THE LAW FIRM EVERY DAY? BigLaw!! Jeans, rumpled t-shirts. Sandals!! They haven't shaved and no, you don't look like George Clooney with a late night dusting of emergent facial hair. You look like a bum off the street or a scary pervert at Spring…

Why no memo to the guys about getting drunk in public and trash-talking the firm - much more timely and we've yet to see the women passing emails about suggesting that law firms F*** their clients for money. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/clifford-…

Rules for men in court (from a 25-year woman courtroom lawyer):

Doesn't sound made up to me either. This is how trial attorneys help the jury decide who is lying and who is telling the truth. You ask them for a coherent narrative. If what happened didn't really happen, the details are difficult to make up. Here, the details are stunningly coherent and consistent. I wouldn't for a…

Never give a range because your bargaining partner will simply pick the bottom (or the top if he's the employee) of the range. Begin with an aggressive but supportable proposal and plan 2 or 3 concessions in advance.

So true! Thanks for monetizing vacation leave and listing the items included in total compensation. Too many employees tell potential new employers that their current salary is what they see in their pay checks. We recommend that employees monetize all their benefits and use the term you use here - "total…

Good for you for doing what it takes to make sure you reap the full value (or at least a significant part of it) of your work in the labor force. I can tell you after 35 years in corporate, academic and professional life, that administrative support staff (generally not considered "knowledge workers") are as difficult…

Don't believe the corporate mantra "you can be replaced" or "you're lucky to have a job." Take a look at this post - "Why You Cannot Be Replaced" and take it to heart. http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/advice-for-you…. Consider it a new rallying cry for the 99%.

Don't give up just because you forgot! Ask for a second meeting. Slap your hand to your forehead in that "I could've had a V-8" way. Say that you realize you failed to check the pertinent salary ranges when before you reached an agreement on your raise and ask if you can revisit the issue.

This was good luck! and good for you for having your own anchor and at least one planned concession. We routinely recommend you commence your negotiation at least 2 to 3 steps above your bottom line since negotiator satisfaction has been demonstrated to turn more on the number of concessions made by one's bargaining…

Thanks. They hacked my website, then hacked another I used to be associated with but no longer am; sent hate mail about me to all my husband's law partners, posted my step-son's profile in their many screeds, launched a campaign to take my wikipedia entry down (not that I care) and have wished me "all the harm that…

Yup; I'm facing the same thing and I will not take down the post at issue because I know it will never stop if I do that because it gives the trolls a false sense of their own power. These are spectacularly unhappy, unsocialized people who could not harm another's reputation or screw up their day if they said openly,…

Amen!