Yeah a quick glance through the replies & the impression is quickly "NEVER SPEAK ILL OF SOMEONE'S SPECIAL DAY! IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD DON'T COME BUT UNDERSTAND IT MAKES YOU AN ASSHOLE".

I find nothing at all appealing about getting a handjob. There exists no technique in the world that would change my mind on this. To me a handjob is tantamount to saying "Um, I don't want to suck or fuck it but, meh, here —let me move it around for you a bit." At that point any sense of intimacy is tossed out the…

Actually, I think the targets of these kinds of articles tend to be the brides who, unlike yourself, really do not understand that there are people who cannot afford to attend weddings at a distance. I think the author tends to target the mentality that people should just "suck it up" (as I have seen SO many times on…

I mean, all they did was point out the expense, right? What's wrong with that? I don't think it's saying, 'NO ONE SHOULD HAVE WEDDINGS WHERE PEOPLE TRAVEL AND STUFF.' It's just a condition and expense.

The last two weddings I went to (one just earlier this year) were both weddings that involved a lot of travel for the guests, and both brides told me they felt they needed to have multiple activities since people had come such a long way. This wasn't really about how much the guests had spent, but rather that 1)…

I didn't get that impression from the article at all. It just seems like a reminder to be considerate and grateful of the time and effort involved for the guests. Some brides and grooms get caught up in how much money they're spending on the wedding (which is totally understandable) and don't realize that guests spend…

I didn't even go to my cousin's wedding on March 1 and I've already gotten a thank you note for the $50 gift I bought from their registry. I was very surprised, and apparently she's very classy.

"If you really care about being at this person's wedding, the cost of going to it won't bother you too much" —- seriously? You need to think about this for an extra second to see why it's an absurd statement. You're basically saying people who don't show up don't care enough. You know what your condition is called?…

There are so many comments like, "oh just say no! politely decline!"

Well, the thing is, a lot of people WANT TO GO. It's just expensive.

Love kick ass kids doing kiss ass things. The fact that she really did it for others is really inspiring. What a fabulous and articulate kiddo!

That's exactly what our society does. Men learn from boyhood that anything they do for others is a nice thing they do out of the goodness of their hearts, women learn it's expected if they want any of that goodness.

Yeah…… now go calculate how much money those guys would be spending on full-time childcare if their wife wasn't at home taking care of the kids, and add that in as her financial contribution.

So much this. I just caught something related happening to me. Last weekend our whole huge extended family got together at my grandparent's house. My dad, brother (older by 3 years. We're both still in college.) and I all arrived together. We walked in and greeted the relatives who were already there and then my dad…

I can't believe they actually got paid to do chores. Before I got a job, the money situation was basically "ask and justify your need when you need it", with no regular allowance. I'd get money and gift cards as presents for birthdays and hoard that shit.

Scholastic book sales! I'm unreasonably excited for the day that my child is old enough to bring an order form home.

This: "It's almost as if we're thanking a boy for doing chores while expecting them from girls." It seems to me to carry throughout life. Women do the grunt work and put in the hours, but guys get more praise just for showing up.

as my late dad used to say, "there's a reason they have to pay you to do it".

Y Axis: Personally Fullfilling. X Axis: Pay

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