And he's not doing his part in the marriage, either. She stated that she handled the bulk of the household chores. While sex is incredibly important, so is pitching in at home. I would feel really resentful if I was doing all the housework and being used as a human sex toy, too.

This looks like the strategy of a person who is fucking blind to how much work and stress renovating the house, then getting stuck covering the workload of people who got fired (no time to recover from the renovation stress), and still coming home and cleaning and cooking for her husband and herself everyday entails.…

"From the reddit post:

"He told her in the email that he wouldn't miss her when she was away because they didn't have sex anyways. That is pretty shitty and makes it seem like he ONLY likes her for sex-if that's how he treats her then it's no wonder she doesn't want to sleep with him."

It amazes me how frequently this is the narrative. And how angry the hordes of dudebros get who insist "dude should get sex!" but refuse to acknowledge the remainder of the narrative. There's a reason - several, actually - that she's too exhausted to have sex. It's because he's not helping with the marital load (and…

Turned into? I can't believe I'm actually about to type this out to another (presumably) adult human being. No woman, and no man for that matter, ever HAS to have sex. Ever. Period. That's not something that an argument turns into. That's just a universal truth. No one is ever under any obligation to have sex with…

I can't tell if this is a joke, or a serious but incredibly dumb question. Do you actually believe that a couple with day jobs 5 days a week and no kids can only have sex at one time of day?

... Given that 90% of the female slash fic fans that I know are queer themselves, and the vast majority of women who actively champion slashfic and write about it academically are queer, I can't say you're really onto something here.

Why do you assume they have?

A lot of people seem to be missing this. If you spend all morning and afternoon doing the work multiple people were meant to do then came home to cook and clean not just for you but for another adult who is perfectly capable of doing it themselves, of course by the time 8 or 9 rolls around you can only really manage…

The spreadsheet just screams Sense of Entitlement to me. He's so dismissive of her reasons. Clearly they are not good enough. If she is giving false answers, I'll bet that is a lot easier than having a grown up conversation with someone so passive.aggressive and immature.

He is what's wrong. He's a child. We're not supposed to have sex with our children.

...but its not like "I'm sick" is an invalid reason. You can read her side on reddit and it seems like he is just initiating at bad times. He refused the compromise of doing it in the morning according to the reddit.

I can see the spread sheet being helpful to figure out what he's doing wrong, so I don't get why he didn't do anything.

Also asking EVERY DAY to someone that in general isn't into it for whatever reason also isn't going to magically make it better. I would get annoyed and say no anyway. He's lucky to get 3/27

But you're judging what she's doing in her marriage based on your ideal of what a woman should do in a marriage. A marriage doesn't have to fit any sort of definition beyond what the participants decide to make for themselves. "That's all on her - not him" implies that she's in the wrong. Your expectations don't make…

Or maybe his approach is all wrong. How many times do you have to hear "I'm sweaty and feel gross" to realize after gym sex is not her thing?

I pretty much exclusively use AO3, but since I am also on Tumblr I will follow people to other sites if a recommendation looks good. AO3 just has the best search and refine functions and the largest selection. I didn't really get into it until AO3 and Tumblr, but I remember looking a little bit before, and it is way…

This might be part of the reason I don't enjoy mpreg specifically and most omegaverse/knotting fics - part of the fun of fanfic is to not deal with reality, and the possibility of kids, and complicated things like who society says is the weaker gender. This adds that back in.

Actually, having seen a fair amount of this stuff (I was in Supernatural fandom for WAAAAAAAY too long), the power dynamics are usually much closer to male-on-female than male-on-male, but also closer to male-on-female creature that only exists in misogynists' fevered imaginings than male-on-female. The "bitch" (i.e.,…