I really like National Network of Abortion Funds (NNAF) - http://www.fundabortionnow.org/

It takes away control of women from men.

thanks, friend. best to you as well.

Honestly it was the description in the Jez interview where she said she felt physically ill the entire next day and knew it hadn't been consensual because her sober self never would have consented. That's like an exact version of how I felt. I was already feeling so blah about all the news but that was just...big…

They said they're sorry to people who were affected. I was affected, and I am affected by this retraction because a huge part of the reason I never reported anything was exact issues that were discussed in both of those articles I mentioned. I identified with the story, and now it's bullshit (eta - it may or may not…

Did I say that anybody had any responsibility not to trigger me? What the fuck are you even talking about?

Seriously. I was "affected." In that between the UVA story and Jez's interview with the other survivor from UVA, I ended up having a borderline panic attack/breaking down into sobbing bringing back memories of my own sexual trauma because it resonated with me so much.

some shots from DC:

Agree, and honestly just reading an expert (and a man!) totally validate women's feelings of apprehension and the fear with which we walk through the world was so affirming to me. He perfectly addresses the #notallmen phenomenon and shitty men who dismiss women's concerns years before it became an internet discussion.

This is great information. Thank you. I also want to plug to everyone The Gift of Fear yet again (it can literally change your life) and say that it contains some good info along these lines on protective orders and why they are certainly not a cure-all or even advisable a lot of the time.

Iggy lives in America. and she has no problem with trying to participate in Black American culture in other ways. i don't think anybody expects a PhD dissertation but a little awareness would be nice.

And part of the tale as well: white dudes deny that this is the case.

Has anyone seen any account of how the union is involved in this at all? UPS drivers are unionized through Teamsters. Was she in a non-union position, or are they not involved in representing her here, or what?

yesssssssssssssss

Well, then come on out to Clarendon for the restaurant location if you feel like some nachos :)

where do you stand on Hard Times Cafe Cincinnati-style chili? Their chili nachos are a winner. I get them every time I go to Nats park.

was def disappointed at the lack of other stones.

people on four weddings always complain about the line at the buffet. so...that's something to consider.

Oh god. That is so much worse than silly wedding drama. I am so sorry. There's no excuse for that. Huge hugs. I hate to say it but it sounds like living any closer to that parent might be toxic. Best wishes to you and I hope you actually enjoy the wedding! It sounds really lovely.

I'm sorry! Stay strong! This is exactly what I'm talking about. It's so easy to say you should be able to say no to everyone, but you don't have to be a doormat to be frustrated and give in after the fifth person starts shoving their two cents in your face. Wedding planning can involve managing many personalities and…