I was in a decade long relationship with someone with BPD and it was and continues to be on some level an abject nightmare in part because I understood that this is a mental illness and that I shouldn’t stigmatize it and that, on some level, it wasn’t their fault. So I accepted the suicide attempts, the physical…

There is also a danger inherent in normalizing it. It encourages people to stay in abusive relationships with false hopes of recovery. BPD is not your average mental illness. Borderlines, by and large, resist treatment except for when it serves their purpose, and then immediately stop once it is no longer of use. I…

I feel the same way! He actually stepped away from SNL for a while to deal with his addiction and mental health issues, and seems to be mostly back in action now. He’s so funny, and I have a weird little crush on this guy who is waaaaay too young for me.

Except that BPD often comes with abusive behavior. It’s very different from, say, depression or anxiety. It’s not a chemical imbalance. It’s who they are. It makes them hurt people, emotionally & physically. It’s fine to be sympathetic, because it’s an awful existence, but it’s also important to validate that…

Don’t worry, the tide flips eventually. I am in my mid 30's, and all my coupled friends have been married for a decade and/or have kids. I get that “You Magnificent Bastard” look from them when I say something like “Yea, I decided to sleep all day Saturday because I could.” or when I start and finish a project around…

No one giving a shit if I got married would be fantastic for me. As far as weddings go, the smaller and cheaper the better.

I know so many people having this exact same issue. They’re worried about going out in public alone cause they think they’ll look like a loser or a weirdo. It seems more loserly to me that you have to be attached to someone all the damn time. Go to the freaking movies!!! Go out to eat!! Have drinks at the bar!!! LIVE…

Hate these guys and their dirtbag look. But at least they can change clothes, maybe into future prison uniforms, and get a different hairstyle. (But Ellie, but making fun of baldness is low.)

I had a different issue but similar problem. My mom gave me a great response to keep in my pocket (So to speak).

I find this fascinating, but she completely loses me on smoking. (She talked about this in more detail in Slate: https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2018/04/barbara-ehrenreich-says-smoking-bans-are-a-war-on-the-working-class.html) My dad started smoking as a working-class teenager. He died a torturous death at 55 of…

This may sound simplistic, but what works for me is not getting takeout ever. It is awesome for losing weight/eating healthier, is way cheaper and has made me a better cook.

Being exposed to overwhelming clouds of axe body spray in 7th and 8th grade turned me off all forms of the stuff for good. A salt water bath and deodorant has proven a successful combination over the years and I’m sticking to it.

“If I call out they are going to respond, but are not going to approach me,” said Pantoja of 99% of women I talk to. “I wear cologne.”

I don’t get this AT ALL. In fact, the PSAs screamed “Sensitive snowflake!” to me. My feelings on kids and dogs (or other domestic animals) are the same: Until there are no more homeless kids or pets, stop making/buying them. I don’t have sympathy for people that have money to burn on creating a mini clone, plenty of…

They’ve been a-ok with him governing without a working brain, so.....

I can’t even begin to imagine what this poor family is going through. My heart aches for them.

I referenced several yogic philosophy scriptures dating back centuries in my earlier comments. They are available in translation. What do you mean, “Nope”?! They exist, Google them.

**clears throat, adjusts glasses** Actually, it was Iyengar’s teacher, Krishnamacharya, who catalyzed Western yoga as we understand it (which btw is not what he taught) via his male students B.K.S. Iyengar, K. Pattahbi Jois, father of ashtanga yoga, and T.K.V. Desikachar, father of viniyoga. There was also a woman who…

But why split your time between London and Monaco when you could live the carefree life in Sheepshead Bay?

Plus, she can bake. <sigh> It’s true what they say....the good ones are always married, gay, or on the run from the law.