I have not seen that! Our news teams always do the power pose with the arms crossed. I'll have to keep an eye out for ad examples.

That makes sense. I was specifically thinking of when people ask questions during the presentation or offer an opinion as head-tilt time.

I find the most confusing one "don't tilt your head". I thought that just indicated listening, not the gradual drift of my vaporous lady-brain exiting my ears.

When I bought a pirate outfit, I solved this problem by subbing in my own black pants or skirt depending on how I wanted to rock it. It came with black bloomers, like the bloomers you put over a baby's ass in a portrait studio to hide their diaper. Gross.

I don't think so. I don't have kids but I relate to this because I have been separated from my husband (we have since reconciled). I found almost 100% of this to apply to that situation too. I think a crisis of any kind - from unplanned pregnancy up to oh shit I'm alone in the house with one income - brings out a…

I mean, great that they appreciate it but it doesn't actually help anyone.

I don't know if you are looking for talking points, but my husband had a similar lack of understanding originally. I phrased it thusly:

I think there are lots of things in marriage you need to compromise on, but what your name is going to be is not one of them. It's not a decision that affects both of you; it's the name-changer who has to fill out all the paperwork and assume a new identity. I felt okay just informing my fiance (now husband) that I…

They married when DOMA was repealed in their state. So...kinda sorta not really but almost waited, didn't fully commit.

Wow, so really ARE stupid. It's good to have that confirmed.

I assume her husband's name was magically awarded to him at birth by a kind universe? Wait what? It's also his father's name? Yeah just checking.

I love that you have a Banana Republic card. A woman after my own heart.

I kept my name and people ask me all the time "what was your maiden name?" (as conversation, not for business) and I'm all "This is...it? I don't know how to answer that." It never ends.

I have the opposite problem; companies keep calling to speak to my husband about accounts *I* opened/initiated. (We have different names.)

I have a separate account as well, but I haven't tried it at that one, fearing cheque rejection.

“One family, one name. If she didn’t take my name, I’d seriously question her faith in us lasting as a couple. And I don’t want hyphenated kids.” —Brandon Robert Joseph Peyton, via Facebook

I've received those kind of cheques but they usually also have my husband's name on it, so I haven't had problems putting them in my joint account.

Bahahaaha! Something like this always runs through my mind when I see the new featured players. "Really SNL? All those auditions and you're taking on 10 new white guys? GOTCHA."

How did you keep from laughing in his face? (Or did you?)

Maybe you could help her by not using a post about her pain to wax lyrical about how her sadness totes ruins your day? Just a thought.