Wait—I don’t get his creative process:

Reccing your username.

Interesting. I think I have died in my dreams before. And promptly woke up in panic/relief.

American Higher Ed is receiving a wake-up call with the recent spate of student suicides. Not only is our college model financially unsustainable, it’s psychologically untenable too.

I just finished Agorafabulous! this afternoon!!! Fun read. I miss Benincasa’s Friendzone column on Jezebel. Crazy how much this site has changed in the past year.

My dad is a long-time college professor. He frequently has nightmares about showing up to class unprepared to deliver a lecture.

Thank you. I’m glad you sought help and are doing much better. It’s just so mind-warping when someone can be so sweet one minute and so inconsiderate the next. I appreciate your advice.

Thank you for sharing your story with me. It gives me hope. Unfortunately, this wasn’t my first rodeo with a narcissist prone to gaslighting. I recognize that I’m the common denominator here and I have some work to do in therapy. But as you indicated, I should expend my energy on changing myself, not someone else.

Yeah. It’s when I remember that she will never hold herself accountable for her actions that I realize how toxic this person is. There’s nothing to discuss. Nothing to work out. Hopefully I can remember that. Thanks for your response.

Thanks for this. You’re right—I’m clinging to this relationship because it’s scary to confront the void in my life that it will leave. Also, so much of our friendship was both intense and pleasant. And this person can be so kind sometimes. But ultimately, she will never be the friend I want her to be, and the friend…

Thank you for responding. Part of me knows you’re right; my family and friends have said the same thing. It’s just easy to suffer a crisis of faith (in my own judgment) like I did last night.

Your comment was blunt but not at all harsh. I appreciate your support and empathy. Thank you for taking the time to compose not one but two thoughtful posts.

Do any Jezzies care to share their tales of recovering from gaslighting? I could use the support.

Maybe because it's Superbowl Sunday? I've been waiting impatiently for that thread as well.

I'm going with a friend to the Morbid Anatomy Museum this weekend. She's sort of acting like it's a date, which it isn't, but I'm rethinking things just for the potential story.

I know nothing about any of these people. Yes, I'm bragging.

I'm just relieved that the headline isn't a sexual euphemism.

Because porn is fantasy. Regular people having regular sex is not fantastical. That most mainstream porn is tinged with misogyny speaks volumes about male fantasy.

I look at Strawberry Shortcake porn. *blushes*

I swear to God.