Given how the press is scrambling to defend her rapist and she is not backing away from her story, hero is an appropriate term. Sorry she’s about two centuries too late to be at the forefront liberating the slaves, but what a fucking shit comment.

I’ve interviewed the author of this post and Emma Sulkowicz for Gawker. I consider myself to have a reasonable bullshit detector, and a strong grasp of the issues involved at Columbia. I found the author and Emma surprisingly forthright, wholly credible, and supremely conscientious at all points in our interviews. I…

Something bad happened to a woman? SHE MUST’VE HANDLED IT WRONG. EVERYONE KNOWS THAT IF YOU AREN’T PERFECT YOU DESERVED TO BE A VICTIM. SHE MUST’VE BEEN ASKING FOR IT. VICTIMS ARE WHO WE SHOULD REALLY BLAME.

One of the things I value so much, reading this story, is how clearly it shows the way that reporting someone isn’t always and shouldn’t be assumed to be a horrible excision of deep personal trauma—that the author reported him with the primary goal of keeping other women safe.

I loved this line: “I support Emma, but I am not Emma.” I experienced a sexual assault at a young age and sometimes I feel like I owe it to women to talk about it. But that’s not my process. I don’t owe it to anyone. Neither do you. Emma is wonderful, but you aren’t obligated to be her.

Rape is included in sexual assault, but is not the same thing. Nobody here is saying that men are not sexually assaulted, or that it’s not a big deal when this happens to them. Someone who attempts to force themselves on a person—such as what happened to you— and fails will probably try again and succeed. That’s why…

If I’m not mistaken both Columbia and the police declined to pursue a case against Nungesser due to insufficient evidence, which is vastly different than affirming his innocence.

Did you SERIOUSLY just play the “won’t somebody think of the children” card? Jesus, I thought you were better than that.
This is not overtly sexual in any way. At all. Full stop. They are not doing ANYTHING obviously sexual. Spanking/pinning/some hitting would have obvious and clear sexual tones. Some hitting could…

So much this.

As someone who’s worn a collar, though not in public...keep your concern to yourself. She’s clearly happy and consenting.

People are constantly getting off by things in public without your knowledge or consent.

Correction: We do some sexual activity in private in this country, depending on how exactly you define sexual activity.

This is not a sexual activity, this is a psychological activity. If this is puppy-play (and it probably is), a lot of the time it’s not seriously sexual at all. Part of the POINT of it is that it’s innocent; you’re pretending to be something totally innocent and free.

Yeah, it’s almost certainly a BDSM/kink thing. It’s not hurting anyone and both parties are absolutely fine with it, so it’s not problematic at all. :\

Yep. Seems like a form of BDSM play. Obviously if she was crying or showing signs of distress or something its different, but hell what is it called... “puppy play?” Or something? I try not to keep up on my internet kink (frankly there is too much of it to understand at once).

And while some may find the walk demeaning, it doesn’t look like the woman is unhappy in the photos, nor that this is non-consensual.

Consenting adults? A’ight then. You do you.

Old jezebel was sweet. And everything didn’t turn into a privilege off contest.

I’ve definitely noticed a bunch of pearl clutchers around here in the past few years. And it’s getting worse. What would they think of Slut Machine at the AVN awards or Pot Psychology or Mo and the week of the lost tampons?! I know, I’m old. I miss the old Jezzie.