I usually wait until I have definitive signals before going there to avoid embarrassment for either party. He’s actually super cool and I’d be totally down to be friends if he is in fact gay, so I’m really weary of accidentally making things awkward. Ughh I wish there was a database or something to look this sort of…

That is precisely the situation I’m worried about. I was all psyched that he was seemingly interested in me, and then I mentioned it to a friend who brought up the idea that he was gay. Extensive facebook stalking has been inconclusive, but most certainly doesn’t rule out him being gay. He’s super cool and I’d be…

You guys. I like a boy, but am unsure if he’s gay. I thought I was picking up on signals that he was into me, but now I’m uncertain as to whether they’re just friend signals because he’s potentially gay. How do I navigate this without embarrassing myself?

Oh yeah entitlement is close to the top of a long list of things men do that cause an involuntary vagina sealing reflex for me.

Meanwhile all of us women are off fucking normal men who don’t identify themselves by weird wolf terms like “alpha” and “beta.” Who would have thought?

I get the opposition to the gendering, but it’s sort of an important distinguisher IMO. As a human who is attracted to all genders, I’m weirdly only obsessed with buns on men. I actually sort of prefer short hair on women.

I honestly never understood the way people obsess about random body parts until I mysteriously developed a man bun obsession. I have to stop myself from staring at man bunned people in public and I just watched that top gif for a solid minute and made a strange, involuntary utterance. I’m no better than all those…

I can attest to the fact they’re directly targeting small elections. My aunt is a state rep with a tiny district (<20,000 people), and had attack mail paid for by the Koch brothers go out against her. It was clear they were doing it for every democrat in the race, which is just absurd. They’ve got their hands in…

I’ve borrowed bronzer from a friend and it looked both orange and dirty on me, but I wasn’t sure if I was just using the wrong color/type of bronzer. I’ve been sticking to blush, but I think I’m using the wrong tone for any sort of sculpting effect. Do you use a darker blush for sculpting and a brighter one for cheeks?

I know a Jen with the middle name Lynne. I had no idea that combo was so popular, so strange!

Ohh can you explain the perks to me? I’m pale and ginger and have always assumed bronzer would look dumb on me because no part of me has ever been bronze, but it seems like all the people in the know in regard to make up use bronzer and I’m starting to rethink whether or not I need some.

Yeah I have a theory about guys who consistently date much younger women. First, I think they’re not very sexually confident and want someone who is inexperienced and won’t be able to judge them. Second, I think they dislike women who are intelligent and opinionated, and want someone who is young and impressionable…

I actually think that’s a huge part of it. Most men in their 30s and 40s who online date use paid sites like eHarmony. OKC is known for having a bit of a younger crowd, and I suspect the 40-year-olds who choose OKC over other sites are a specific subset of dudes who are less mature and less concerned with the…

If you shell out on OKC you can filter matches by body type. I honestly think the app is about more than looks. As a smart, educated midtwenties woman I’m having a pretty difficult time finding guys who are on the same level. I would never use an app that is clearly targeting elitists, as those kind of people wouldn’t…

I’m currently having casual sex with multiple people so I’m all about the condoms and I realized recently that I don’t even see the pill as pregnancy prevention anymore, it’s completely a period control method for me. I think that’s a totally legitimate reason to take it, periods are a fucking nightmare that consume…

Yup! I’ve been doing this for years and it’s amazing. A couple tips: get your prescription written as “continuous use” so that you have enough refills to cover all the extra weeks you’ll be taking active pills; be prepared for some spotting the first few months you’re doing this, I promise it eventually stops and…

That’s fair—they’re like tourists but worse. I can’t handle the occasional band of midwesterners in decade old fashions meandering down the sidewalks of my city, so I can only imagine if the place I lived was swarmed by the volume and intensity of the denizens of BRC. Last time I was in Reno going to burning man I…

I don’t either, but I also don’t know why they throw around bra sizes if they don’t know anything about them. I don’t know anything about engines, so if I were describing one I’d probably limit myself to “big” or “small” rather than speculating on cylinder size or something of the sort.

Hahh we are online dating enemies—I refuse to consider anyone who explicitly bashes Burning Man. I recently came across an otherwise awesome match whose profile said something along the lines of “don’t message me if you consider yourself a burner.” Such a polarizing topic. Can I ask what your rationale is? I’m curious…

Yeah I think the paid sites probably generate fake accounts. I don’t see the point on a free site like OKC, which is the extent of my online dating experience. I’m bi so I see both men’s and women’s profiles and I don’t think I’ve ever seen one that struck me as fake.