Yup, my “natural cycle” includes lots of emotional destabilization around my period and hormonal migraines. If avoiding those two things by taking the pill continuously constitutes “scary long-term effects” I’ll take all the effects please. I get that the pill isn’t for everyone—my sister is actually among those…

They always wear a bigger size than a real human that small would since it’s so difficult to dress an inflexible body. I’m thin, but by no means mannequin-sized and once got pants off a mannequin that fit perfectly. I want to say they were size 27? Not 24, which is definitely the size a human that size would wear.

This doesn’t take care of the sound and therefore wouldn’t help me in most of the situations in which I need to fart, but cannot acceptably do so. I’d say sound is at least equally as problematic as smell in terms of farting in public, possibly more so because you can try to pass off a silent but deadly fart as…

That’s my feeling. I refuse to dumb myself down or pretend to be less assertive because I don’t want someone who is looking for a partner like that. I actually dated a guy who was quite explicit about how much he loved my smarts and sass, unfortunately he wasn’t enough of an intellectual to keep me stimulated. He sort…

I’ve studied marriage in a few different classes, and it’s statistically pretty standard that men are happier in marriages than women are. Married men outrank their single counterparts happiness-wise, whereas unmarried women are actually slightly happier on average than married women.

Yup. I’m not sure I’ve ever been called agreeable. Sassy is the word that seems to come up most. I learned in one of my classes awhile back that for the most part divorce rate and education level are inversely correlated, with the exception of when the wife has a higher level of education than the husband, in which…

Oh my god the flower/gardener thing is so perfect. I’ve been trying to find a nice way to explain the fact that my ex required more taking care of than I do and the caretaker role isn’t one I’m used to fulfilling, nor is it one I care for. But I sorta sound like a brat when I say that I want to be the one who gets…

Yeah honestly my takeaway is that stupid people are happier. I don’t think it actually has anything to do with the average person being more happy with a less educated person, it’s just that the less educated people who probably married similarly uneducated people are happier than the miserable smarty pants with their…

This is because people consider women’s looks more variable for whatever reason. The creators of OKCupid did a really interesting analysis back when the site had explicit attractiveness ratings. The men’s ratings of women took on a standard bell curve with a peak at 3 and basically equal amounts in each tail. The…

I really think people who get upset by other people’s travel stories are mostly just jealous. I’ve traveled a fair amount and sometimes still get pangs of envy when I hear about particularly awesome trips my friends/family are taking. I imagine that if I were a less traveled person and/or had a different disposition…

Hah! Happily seeing four fellow atheists. It’s quite the rotation of oh so sinful extramarital sex.

OKC is pretty heavily atheist, or at least all the profiles I look at seem to be. It could be that I’m only being matched with fellow heathens based on all of my anti-religion answers to questions though. It’s gotten to the point that I straight up won’t consider anyone who belongs to any sort of organized religion.

About 90% of my time on there has been terrible, but I’ve actually found half a dozen pretty solid people on there. It took a few months, a lot of question answering to make the match % worthwhile, and filling out a lengthy profile with lots of big words and feminist concepts to scare away some of the awful people,…

I think if you pay for OKCupid you can screen emails that contain certain words. Presumably you could add things like “c” and “u” to the list and get rid of all the idiots who sent messages like “hey QT, can I c u latr?”

Yeah, sometimes I think about the alarming amount that OKCupid knows about me based on my answers to questions...like more than my own family probably knows, and about things I generally don’t really talk about.

Yeah bipolar disorder is not a risk factor for violence. I think a manic episode with psychotic features could amplify some problematic thought patterns to the point of delusions, which could be paired with a separate violent predisposition and lead to the sort of bizarre violent behavior he exhibited.

I loved Pennsatucky’s backstory, she went from a character I sort of hated in some ways (though she has always been entertaining) to one of the most relatable, sympathetic characters for me. Boo’s intervention was super problematic, but quite powerful and clearly got through to Pennsatucky, which was needed. It was…

I have to get myself out of the house and to a place that is strictly for work. For me coffee shops have managed to remain a place I always get serious stuff done. I know other people who have to go to an office/the library or somewhere a bit more strict in their minds. I give myself a rule about leaving my house by X…

Facebook suggested my grandma to me even though we don’t share our last name, I grew up several states away from her, and she had just made her profile so we had no mutual friends. This was a few years ago, so I can only assume Facebook technology has since gone from cataloging family trees to compiling lists of…

I just finished All the Light We Cannot See, which was the most stunningly gorgeous book I’ve read in a very long time. I’ve now acquired everything else Anthony Doerr has ever written just so I can bask in the beauty of his prose just a little longer.