yeah, in dating chill means you’re just trying to protect yourself, which means that your baring off any possible relationships so, in my experience at least, when people just want to be “chill” those relationships are more restrictive than the relationships with people who want to be serious because you have to…

It’s baffling to me how much the “don’t be crazy/needy” thing has ingrained itself into the female psyche. I am 30, have a great job, great life, and I still find myself wanting to be the girl who just goes with the flow and doesn’t ask for too much so as not to seem needy and crazy. (When I have needs! Valid ones!…

I used to hook up with this guy who, eventually, invited me to a group thing. He was late and kept texting that he was almost there, he was on the way, he’d be there any minute. I waited for two hours because I was so chill that I could definitely sit at a bar by myself and not feel like he should be there since he…

Chill is not just bullshit in dating, it’s bullshit in life. All that chill means to me is “ohhh I don’t think YOUR thing is worth getting upset about, but until we get to something I give a shit about, I’m chill as fuck.”
If I’m like “hey, so that thing you said you wanted to do with me, should I like plan for it or…

That’s always what I thought it was. A guy calls you “chill” but it really means “I don’t think you’ll ever call me out on my bullshit.”

This this this. I started seeing a guy who told me “Just so you know, I’m not looking for anything serious,” which I took to mean “I’m not ready to settle down right now but I’m sure your love will lead me there in a couple of years so we can live happily ever after,” and tried to convince myself I wasn’t looking for…

To a certain type of guy, “chill” is the opposite of “crazy,” where “crazy” = “feelings and demands I don’t want you to have because they require me to contemplate you as a person with your own thoughts and desires.”

Yeah exactly. Chill is fine with me provided you’re not touching me below the waist and you are willing to make yourself available as suits MY schedule, not yours, because it is clear that I am not prioritizing our connection yet.

Yeppppp. I met my lovely boyfriend online after SIX YEARS of meeting nothing but ‘chill hang-out’ dudes. He took me out for an actual date, called it a date and when we parted ways he called me about an hour later to make sure I got home ok and to let me know he had a great time and would love to see me again. It was…

Chill is the domain of the young (and the eternally immature). Once you hit mid-30s, chill is another word for paralyzing fear of intimacy and/or commitment. Some people are comfortable in that space for a lifetime, but if you’re on the receiving end of it and you want more, it’s time to start calling it what it is.

I have so many feelings about this.

The situation on Hinge at the moment is SO CHILL that no one even sends messages. A very “I’m open to online dating, but won’t actually contact you” kind of thing. (My fragile ego refuses to believe it’s just me.)

Just a tip for any guys reading this. When women are talking about how they’re treated (MIStreated) it really is never appropriate to tell your story. No one cares. It’s not about YOU - not this time. Maybe never.

Yeah, gonna be totally honest, I don't understand the need to overshare either. When the fuck did telling your parents and other family members explicit details about your sex life become the norm? It seems so narcissistic and self-indulgent and navel-gazing to me.

Ugh. Seriously. Nobody wants to know anyway. Least of all, your parents. Why can't people just shut the fuck about stuff? All this over-sharing nonsense is getting old.

Right there with you. I thought I was pretty okay with it, but lately both my physical health and my depression have been really bad, and I’m really freaked out about not having a support system (it’s particularly bad because I have no family close by). I just want someone I can cuddle up with to tell me everything is…

First of all, spinsters rock. Secondly, life is funny and you never know what will happen. I was single for 13 years and had resigned myself - mostly happily, sometimes lonely-ly - to being alone for life when I made friends with a co-worker which eventually turned into love. We’ve been together for five years now and…

Ya’ll, I’m about 85% sure that I am going to die a spinter. Most of the time it doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I love cats and I’m not known for being cuddly. However tonight I am fiercely lonesome and would really enjoy a nice cuddle with a handsome man. Le sigh.

Truly terrible that a lady with a long history of mental illness who had just killed her baby couldn't do it again. Oh, the horrors

My fifteen year old cat who had bone cancer in her mouth and jaw, was put to sleep yesterday. I held her and my girlfriend and I sang to her and I cried into her fur. This morning when I woke up I looked over, half expecting to see her in my recliner then I remembered. :(