First time posting to the Social! (I'm on the West Coast and sadly still in the greys so by the time I see the post, it usually feels too late to chime in). I could use some advice from my fellow fabulous Jezebels.

I'm an adult woman living in a major city with a smattering of friends in similar situations. I might be a little sensitive right now because I've been thinking that I'd like to actually do something for my birthday this year... I never really bother doing much, but I've been working to build a community for myself…

LOLOLOL your defense is, look, men are far more homicidal and suicidal, but women are such attention whores! Splash some water in your neuron's face, it needs it.

And apparently men as well, given your trolling for attention.

This is a thought I have a lot. I think at 36, I'm more well adjusted and a WAY better potential partner than I ever have been. However, I sometimes wonder if I am ever going to find someone who is my male equivalent? I wasn't stupid enough to have a kid with anyone, get married (and divorced) or do anything to fuck…

I love how every time a woman says she is having problems finding a date people respond by telling her to lower her standards. First, it is rare guys are told this (although the number of delusional middle-aged men who will react with shock and horror when asked to date a woman within five years of their own age is…

I absolutely don't do this (i'm 35, good looking in shape female, never been married, work in creative and pay rent and have a roommate due to student loans, never owned a car). This is just how my life went and i don't expect anyone to be 'better' than that.

Dear Dudes,

Spend the time you are now using harassing women about their dating preferences on the internet buying a fucking bedframe.

1) I wish misogynists would just straight up say that they prefer women who are actively hurting themselves - that anorexia is their preferred state for women. Few are so bold as to admit it (although a few MRA sites do). Under patriarchy, the woman who thinks of absolutely nothing else except what she looks like and…

my moronic ex husband LOVES the Chive. He is now happily boning a self identified "Chivette," one of the gals who posts her partial nudes for the enjoyment of Chivers. Their philanthropy is a frat house idea of what community service is: huge parties that they sell tickets to and the proceeds go to whatever charity is…

Telling people to hide their feelings isn't going to cheer them up. Telling them to smile is exactly that: you're telling them to not look sad when they're feeling sad. I seriously hate when people tell me to smile, I have on of those permanently grumpy faces (okay, also I am permanently grumpy but that's just my…

Well, of the four times I've been physically assaulted on the street, the time I punched the guy in the chest while telling him to "fuck off" was the time I get left alone the fastest, so.

How do you know things aren't that bad?

Telling people they should smile is not the same as cheering people up. If you want to cheer them up, then please do (in the most unobtrusive way possible, otherwise it may look creepy too)! Just don't tell strangers what to do or not do.

But did you know why these people were upset/having a bad day? Maybe it was a tiny thing that would work out. Maybe someone they loved just died. Maybe they just got a horrible diagnosis. Maybe they just got fired and now can't afford things they really, really need, like, say, rent, or medication. Maybe they just got…

So, you first pull a dick move, and then loudly wish death on those people if they aren't happy that you pulled a dick move? Yeah, I can't imagine why you aren't spreading sunshine and rainbows wherever you go

Because other people's bad days are all about you? Especially strangers.

I had a guy tell me to smile, it's not so bad once.

Yep. This one little anecdote says it all. Anyone who wants to know the reason behind this trend can just read this one sentence. Men want the fun parts of parenthood while mom still cleans and cooks and changes diapers, but a lot of women have gotten wise to the fact that the burdens of parenthood will fall squarely…