Desirable women don't need to message men first so to me it also feels like I'm reminding them I'm not a hot commodity.

You've described my experience on dating sites perfectly. I'm sorry it's been such a difficult process.

Dating is a crapshoot wherever you go, online or in real life. I've thrown in the towel this New Year instead of the opposite. In the last few months I've become much more comfortable doing my own thing and making connections with people through my passions than through dating. At this point, I've accepted the fact…

Everything I've heard indicates that OKCupid has a system to who they show you. If you've just been looking at your main page or your match page, try going from profile to profile with the "other users" or "related users" or whatever that section is called. I see people that way that I hadn't seen or noticed before.

You'd be surprised how much changing your first/primary photo can help - guys who just saw the photo & ignored think you're a new user and might change their mind (or you might find them on a better day)

OKcupid has good advice about how women seeking matches and reaching out to men have much higher satisfaction than waiting around for guys to message them. Guys are often flattered to be contacted at all since that never happens to them.

From my experience, this is pretty normal. It takes awhile to learn how to work a particular site. Some workarounds include, if you're a woman, to send the first message. This is just about the only way I've had any dates and the one boyfriend from online sites. Sometimes is also helps to have other people like…

I am a wreck right now. I have been in a struggling marriage for the past 2 years. The marriage became truly problematic after our son's birth. My husband has a bad temper and does not handle his emotions well. Add to that sleep deprivation and fatigue due to a stressful and rigorous job, well, my husband's emotional…

Has there ever been, in the history of the universe, a guy that came on too strong that wasn't a total nightmare?

this is more about dating a married man than meeting someone on craigslist, but i think you'll like it. now i HATE it when women{or men for that matter}date married people. the only time i ever did, i was 18, naive as hell, and of course didn't know. well, he was going to take me to a concert and i get a call…

me. Red Tabby, no collar or tags,spayed female, loud meow. You crazy cat lady with cheese flavored treats.

I've realized recently, after a lot of angst-ing, that I don't really want to have kids. I know, that sounds like it should be obvious to yourself, but I assumed that I was like a lot of people who don't really think too much about kids when they're younger but grow into the idea when they start reaching their 30s.…

Today was my first normal Saturday after leaving my abusive and controlling husband. It's been a little over a week since I left....and I feel absolutely amazing. I have no regrets and this feeling of freedom is incredible! I'm free! I'm free! I can do what I want without feeling like I am walking on eggshells…

Yes! The dog in this picture looks exactly like my dog, Fry, would look if this happened to him. He's the kind of dog that's desperate to please, so if he doesn't know what to do in a situation he looks to me for direction. He's a very tolerant, sweet dog. The look on that dog's face says "mama there is a child on…

I don't understand people who don't properly supervise their children around animals. Kids (generally) are bad with animals. They have a lot of enthusiasm, but they're not able to make the connection between their actions and the reaction of the animal. My parent's dog had a rough life prior to being owned by my…

I've seen those on Jez sometimes too.

Ugh, yes. I find I can't watch a number of animal videos or look at pet photos because in so many of them that are labelled funny/cute/cool, the animal is clearly in distress but the people taking the picture or interacting with the animal are completely oblivious. Like that video of the dog "enjoying" getting washed…

Basically all the rabbit videos on Youtube are like that, too. No, your rabbit is NOT enjoying being chased by your dog, tossed in a swimming pool, or laid on its back with its belly exposed. It is a prey animal and is terrified right now, use some fucking sense. /derail over

My dog bit my face once when I was in kindergarten. She was a big dog, a breed often accused of being aggressive and violent. She was the sweetest dog ever, though, and I was a shit of child who was trying to force her to "roll over" when she wanted to nap. It was more of a scrape than a deep wound, and left no…