How come I never see this sort of advice in the opposite direction? I would definitely stay married longer if my husband made me dinner and makes me cum on a daily basis.

#blessed

Ugh... And this just rankles me even more as a Black woman. Black women are already told—-implicitly and explicitly—-of the Herculean effort we need to go through to get and to keep a man. This is not helping.

Everybody has an opinion about how women should try to improve their marriages, but little to no advice is given to men because of course men are never responsible for their marriages failing and they can never do wrong in a relationship. This advice is bullshit and it's harmful for women because if they get cheated…

I always find this kind of advice puzzling because most divorces are initiated by women. Shouldn't the husbands be the ones adjusting their daily diet to keep their wives at home?

yeah, i got taken in by Good Magic Dick (tm) once... that relationship was such a shitshow but OMG THE SEXXXXX...

good dick can imprison you.

In my (nearly a decade of advocacy, education, prevention and policy) experience, domestic violence is always a pattern, in some way. This particular circumstance sounds like an isolated incidence of violence, which is why it's inappropriate to call it "domestic violence." Was she right or justified to use violence?…

"Because any cheating dog who goes so far as to keep his affairs even remotely secret will quiver when caught."

By "objective truth" you mean "my specific interpretation of varied and contrasting schools of thought, many of which are purely theoretical and not meant to be representative of reality, the talking points of which I have cherrypicked to suit my belief system" correct?

You feeling bad for cosby isn't an emotional reaction? How is that any less of an emotional reaction than other people's feelings towards the man?

I shudder to think what you may have done in your life that you've just shrugged off with this bullshit quasi-nihilist way of thinking.

"fate made him act like shit." Listen, troll, I hope you're as generous with me when I punch you right in the fucking golf ball that encases the garbage that you call your brain. It will be Fate acting through me.

I am not very much pro-choice. I am completely pro-choice. I don't think a woman should ever be forced to undergo a procedure that will likely kill her to safeguard a fetus. If it is out in the world, it is a child. If it is in a womb, it is a fetus. In my world view, woman will always trump fetus.

At the end of the day, I think you should do whatever you want to do, whatever makes you feel best about yourself, no matter what anyone else (here or otherwise) says. That said, I have been going through something very similar, and I can tell you, sending emails is like touching the stove. I sent them, and now I am…

I'm so sorry, I know it sucks to get caught in a vulnerable position by someone who's been cruel to you. But I think if you send him an email, you're opening up the door to getting sucked back in. If you send it, he's probably going to write back- how are you going to feel if you get more of the same from him? Are you…

You can write to him, but do not send it. Write down everything longhand on paper, write, write, and write some more. How you hurt, your hopes and dreams crushed. Then write a letter to yourself, too. What you have learned, your plans for your future. Keep and read very couple of years. Someday you will fall in love…

Nope. Not worth it. You can write it, but don't send it. And if you're asking for permission, you know it's not the right thing to do.

I also agree with everyone else. However, only you know if you need to do this. And if the satisfaction or growth or whatever of doing it will outweigh the potential consequences.

Sometimes people want to do these types of emails - thinking about whether to write, pondering over what to say, polishing the wording, etc. - as a way of staying connected to the beloved. It's not a conscious thought at all. But it's better for you if you just move on.