The thing that sticks out to me the most as being outside of d/s bounds is his using her as an emotional punching bag for any anger and frustration he feels about anything at all. That's just emotional abuse, not dominance.

"Were there any boys with you?"

This bugged me, too. As if it's not only okay, but somehow part of her "job", as his wife, to be his punching bag. A better solution would be for him to learn to manage his anger in a more mature and constructive way, rather than taking it out on someone who doesn't deserve it.

She infantilizes him because he infantilizes himself. It's intentional and a massive part of patriarchal norms - when you're a kid, you just get to sit back while everyone takes care of you. You don't have to worry about whether your desires affect someone else, you can be selfish, etc.

These two idiots were on "Bethenny" this morning, and I was half-assedly listening while in the kitchen. (I'm in grad school - this was the first time I've ever caught an episode!)

Couples who have sex on a daily basis generally feel closer, so no wonder an argument would be less of a big deal.

Dragon*Con? I don't know, I'd read your book...

In the beginning, Joe wanted to have sex every single day, at least once, if not twice or three times…If I didn't give it to him once a day, he'd get upset.

Yes! And it makes me picture having seventeen UTI's.

That is a horrific gif...:(

How my soul feels about this book....

"Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says "no," turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated."

Wow, reading this makes me wonder why she would ever want to get married in the first place. What exactly is he offering her? What does she get out of it? It seems like she is jumping through flaming hoops just to keep him satisfied, for what?

My vagina would hang up a "closed for vacation" sign itself. Not trying to humble brag here, but my husband ain't small and he can go for an hour regularly, and that is after the large amount of foreplay I like to have. That is just way to much sex. Things need a break! I can't do 500 crunches every single day either,…

Isn't there an online check list to see if you are in an abusive relationship? This book doesn't just tick all the boxes, it causes it to burst spontaneously into flames.

This is abuse. This is basically a chapter out of Evan Stark's "Coercive Control."

These quotes, especially by the husband, are very disturbing. I couldn't imagine my husband saying anything like this. The whole relationship sounds very scary.

When gender roles are confused, sexual roles are, too. If he's at the sink and then changing diapers, then who throws down in the bed? In our marriage, Joe is always the man, doing masculine things. I'm the woman, and I do the female things, including housework.

I'm happy! I promise. Look at my eyes! I'm smiling because I'm happy! Not because I feel dead inside.