I have nothing but respect for The Whites, even though many of them are addicted to opiates and are too lazy to get a job! I have some Whites in my family, they are good people, hard working, respectful! If all The Whites where like The Whites I know, they would be happier.

Hey man, we like to spend our taxes on healthcare and education, not military. And there’s only about as many Canadians as there are Californians, so... sorry eh? We’re just as fucked as you are, here.

Yup. Baseless and evidence-free claims from his political rivals that Obama wanted to be a dictator are exactly the same as taking Trump at his actual word. Exactly the same.

Who’s going to liberate us? Everyone but Canada and Germany has gone right-wing populist to an extent. And Canada is too nice to liberate us, and Ze Germans probably don’t want us.

Well.... President Obama is a Constitutional Law scholar, and a successful politician, and generally a pretty cerebral guy.

Yes, just keep employing those false equivalencies for Obama and Trump.

I used to work in an automotive garage in rural-ish Iowa amongst all men who were prone to alt-right-type thoughts. They would frequently bitch about being “politically correct” and all of them were by far the most sensitive individuals I’d ever known. God forbid something didn’t go their way, these grown ass men…

“I can’t believe the University aloud this”

I work at a University in a major city and for reasons I don’t understand the department I’m in has a lot of politically conservative people. Weeks ago when there was the shooting at the University of Ohio someone in my office picked up on the phrase “active shooter” and started making it for its political correctness…

That’s really interesting! I’ve never thought about that, but you have a point. There’s definitely a focus on indepedent learning and even competition, at least when I was growing up.

Yup. Gets weird how similar the wife and I think.

Yup. And this was his first serious relationship, so he has little to judge it by. I think he assumes everyone’s marriage is like this and other folks are just a little better about hiding their “rough spots”.

Same here, but it took me 17 years.

Have you looked into co-dependent/narcissist dynamics? Might help explain your prior relationship. When I started looking into this, it was amazing how much clearer everything became. I also finally realized why I kept on ending up with abusive partners was me.

+1; Your partner should be a value added and trusted friend

My wife and I have a family motto we both follow and I believe it also applies strongly to relationships:

This. And also, not wanting to “fail”. I stayed in my first major relationship for 3 years longer than I should have because I was an overachiever and thought I’d be a failure if I didn’t keep trying. Then one day, lightbulb moment when I realized that I didn’t even like to spend time with the dude. I’m glad you found…

If you’re in a relationship where nothing you do is right and the other is consistently abusive....

Trying to make bad relationships work.

Video games. It’s not going to be popular to say it on this forum, but video games have been a tremendous time waster for me and I’m betting a lot of people here. If I had spent half the time I spent playing Civilization actually doing something productive (school, work, exercise, learning a skill), I would look back…