I think it might help to tell him to notice when he feels defensive. Just, be aware of that feeling. Lean into it a little. What is that telling you? How do you feel in that moment?

This is so over sexualized, it just bummed me out big time.

So my PTSD is getting bad again.

That was incredibly disturbing.

Here's an interesting story that somewhat follows up with an older post on this type of thread from a few weeks ago(barely):

Mmmmmnope. Clearly incredibly talented but I had to stop that before the 30 second mark. Not age appropriate at all.

Man, I am literally old enough to be your mom (42), and I still feel like that a lot. Your whole life is going to be a series of everything-is-great, then something is lame, then things are FUCKING AMAZING, and then catastrophically horrible, and then pretty okay, then AWESOME again. The good thing about getting older…

She's certainly talented, but these moves and her costume seem more appropriate for an adult woman. That is one of the things I found refreshing about the performance Mark posted- she's dressed like a child and the choreography can't be interpreted as too adult. Not knocking this little girl or her talent though!…

It's hard. I just yelled at my dad tonight for saying something not ok in front of my kids. My fear of having my kids parrot racist talk is larger than my fear of family strife. If she's over 80, you might luck out and she'll die before you have kids. It's hard to walk the line of respecting your elders, while trying…

Honestly, I think your reply was perfect. Why debate with her? She isn't asking a serious question. She just whining, and worse than that, she's deliberately baiting you.

This one is far superior. The mom in me wants to say, "Oh, Lordy! This is is far too sexualized of a dance for an 11 year old." But the talent and strength and unbelievable technicality just blows my mind. She's incredible.

Yep, was in that exact position when I started teaching (was younger than you are, felt the same way and over 10 years later in a new career I'm having deja vu). It really helps to remember that you're not an other, you're part of the same team as people who have done the job for anywhere from 1-40 years and thinking…

Start slow. Don't jump into a heavy routine because the day you miss it, you'll feel like a massive failure - believe me, I've been there! The simplest thing to do is to just start by taking walks everyday. You can get apps like MapMyRun that will show you how far you've gone and your pace, etc... and every day you…

Today is National Coming Out Day.

WOW. That is fucking horrible and hilarious at the same time. That story was a gift to the world and I feel blessed to have read it. Bless you for sharing it.

He took it as further proof of my demonic origin.

I have a question!!! What was his reaction when you laughed in his face?

Holy shit.

My freshman year of college, I made the mistake of dating a very serious born-again Christian. (I was raised both Catholic and Unitarian Universalist, I'm not sure what he was doing in the relationship either.)