Yup I’ve lost 40lbs and the cat calls started again. I miss being able to walk without hearing assholes approval or disapproval of my body.

I have mixed feelings about it. I like being able to blend in and just be by myself in a public place, but there’s a part of me that still needs people to think I’m pretty. I don’t like it, but there it is.

Short hair also helps, fwiw.

This is what I hated the most about losing weight and I suspect it’s what subconsciously made me sabotage my diet and re-gain all the weight (and some extra!) back in the days. The gross looks from dudes, the creepy “compliments” I suddenly received for the first time in my life, the leering stares and weird ass…

Preach!

Thank you for saying that before I could.

Well I’m old too. So I’m in a whole other category.

But seriously, go fuck yourself.

Try getting old. I am 58 and my new superpower is that I am invisible to men under 80 as well as to a surprising number of women.

I find that I can just piss men off by knowing things they don’t understand. Basically just the way I live my life pisses off certain men. Lucky for me it’s the type of men I’d not want to be bothered with anyway. But, no, I am not going to act dumb or incapable of doing things just for some dude’s benefit.

I’ve heard a lot of people say that fat makes them invisible. I’ve never felt invisible, and I’ve always been fat. I just get hit on by a different batch of creeps. :/

And get old. It’s awesome for getting guys to ignore you. I’m loving it so much. Fat and old is BONUS!

Great piece. And may I recommend getting fat? I am completely invisible now. But nothing makes men angrier than a fat feminist who loves herself. Example number one - Lindy West. She rocks.

James Franco is like the Nicholas Cage for a new generation. He is genuinely game for anything and just happy to collect his paycheck while enthusiastically yelling whatever ridiculous script you give him. He might even do it for free.

NOT GOOD. I see a lot of them shitting on millennials on Facebook.

You just don’t do that to a guy. Ever.

Great piece. And may I recommend getting fat? I am completely invisible now. But nothing makes men angrier than a fat feminist who loves herself. Example number one - Lindy West. She rocks.

Thanks for pointing out the gender-inequity bullshit behind the oft-repeated truism: never hit a guy “there”. Like that area is somehow sacrosanct, but only if there’s a penis. If it’s a pussy, feel free to grab it (but only if you’re famous).

Madeleine Davies, always my favorite.

Mayonnaise on everything and subjugating brown people.