Oh dear God.

Sure thing, chief.

Not at all! It’s an easy thing to underestimate if you aren’t in the industry or haven’t had to research it in-depth for an event. Plus — in general — people (and this isn’t a slight) do tend to treat the arts like something that isn’t ~really work, so that adds to the problem.

Valentina~for when you can’t find Tapatio.

I can’t believe how cheap and good this stuff is.

Tapatio or GTFO.

That’s my end goal, tbh. I just want there to be stuff and things, food, and some fun games. And drinks and dancing. I don’t care about the flowers, but I will make sure that there are flowers. My dress is cute and dance-able and unfussy. My bridesmaids will be comfortable and untroubled. I’m not being a huge “cool…

Some people like to do “getting ready” shots, as well as have the actual party shots be before the ceremony/reception so you have better light. So if they show up at 10 or 11am, they’re still gone by the time everybody gets messy on the dance floor.

I am. Mr ∞ and I are very happy.

I’m crying with laughter.

Speaking as one-half of a childless couple: kids’ parties are a lot of fun, especially when you don’t have to spend the whole time looking after one of your own. BUT we really like kids, so.

That’s the joy of the ever-growing beast of American capitalism, man. I feel like enormous weddings weren’t even a thing for the average person like 30 years ago.

I literally just ate beans from a can while watching Better Call Saul. My life partner and I scribbled big red X’s on marriage forms and then we both changed our names to the infinity symbol.

A bit of that. But also it’s just that we have a lot of people who’d want to come. And so even trying to build a list of “fun elopement” people started getting over the 50+ mark, at which point you go, “Okay, so we’ll just have to rent a restaurant, and...” and then you realize you’re basically still planning a…

So basically you’re signing papers at city hall and not really having a wedding. So what do you know about the stress of event planning? It’s cool that that’s what you want to do, but plenty of people feel pressured into having a major event.

I take it you’ve never planned a wedding.

That sounds exhausting.

Right? Why don’t people stay in and avoid other humans anymore?

My wedding is in a few months. I no longer want to plan it. I just want to go to a courthouse, eat a bunch of Indian food, and go dancing with some friends.

From what I can tell, they constantly invite competition and nasty responses by implying non-fit moms are lazy and filled with excuses... and then call foul when people get mad?