Um, what?

Yeah I don’t know if it’s ‘black sister’ or ‘made it on her own (which, did she? in terms of lucking into marrying a royal?’)

Well she seems nice.

Ha! Funny you should say that, because in Frito-Lay language it is actually called ‘cheese dust’.

Thanks Neuro, maybe so. It’s really hard to say. I tried pro bono advertising work before law school (got a little of that as a Board member for some nonprofits), but actually getting paid for that...not so much. Only the very picks of the litter get such opportunities. I’m not the runt, but not the pick. Thank you…

Thank you for the kindness. It’s just been...disheartening? I never expected to make a pot of money - that was never the goal. But I did expect to, you know, be able to support myself and make some semblance of a difference for the better.

Hey Jezzies -

First, taking children to another country where they have governance, i. e., standing as citizens, is not kidnapping. Every aspect of child custody is governed by the best interests of the child.

I’ve been in policy long enough to know how congressmen work. Some are smart and open to the ‘fly-ins’ we put together so they can hear from constituents. Those are the Good Guys and I’m proud to work with them.

This reminds me of something I read recently (maybe here!) about the language we use regarding sex. ‘Getting some’, ‘getting laid’, getting to X base’, ‘taking liberties’, ‘taking advantage’. All of those phrases are the one-sided statements of (usually) men acquiring something, with no regard to either the ‘giving’…

Oh okay that’s different. Some folks just really want to keep work and life separate. Also, if you are the subordinate, the superior might think/feel it’s a little ‘not your business Bro’ unless you have a rapport with that person. So I would stop asking, and stick to ‘have a good weekend!’ If she ever wants to tell…

Well, I mean - if you are trying to establish a rapport, perhaps with a new coworker, I’d probably ask twice (and LISTEN to why she says No). If the second invite is turned down, I’d say something like, “Well we’re always up for a double date if you change your mind.” And leave it in her court.

Oh, so are you on the creative side of the advertising industry? Because your now is my used-to-be.

Good for her - and sorry about the circumstances that led to her realization.

That’s so cool! I find him very attractive. I imagine him to be very charismatic (like Jeff Goldblum reportedly is), and if his attention is on you, it’s like your the most fascinating beautiful woman on the planet.

Sad Carp is Sad. No Kate for him.

‘Coon’ and ‘porch monkey’? I haven’t heard those slurs since before my 70 year old grandfather died in 1985.

Love you Renard, but I disagree. Kara may be a good writer (and maybe not) but she is shitty and petty to her readers, and to Jezebel commenters in general. I’ve never read such snotty commentary from someone on the MASTHEAD, let alone from rude everyday troll-ish people.

Writers come and go, it happens. As long as I never read another column by Kara Brown, I’m good.

Kate was an excellent writer here, and helped make Jezebel an informed and smart place. She never mocked or blasted commenters. She’d often respond to comments, and grew the community that is a part of what makes Jezebel great.