General response to everyone because there are many comments.

Yeah, okay, he does seem like a douche - but shouldn't we then call him out for his general douchery rather than constantly bringing up the assault? Whatever. I don't actually give a shit about him, at all. Just sometimes Jezebel can seem overly vitriolic, when I would prefer to see more open-mindedness, or at least…

I can definitely understand that, but on the other hand, it seems potentially problematic to me to define a whole person by one mistake that they have made. And, again, I'm not an abuse-apologist, and I really have no particular fondness for Brown, it just seems kind of weird that everything he does is couched in…

I think I'm going to get pummeled for this, but are we condemning Chris (haha, wrote "Christ") Brown to an eternity of shame for the assault? I mean, I'm not apologising for his behaviour, nor do I think it's acceptable, but, I mean, people who commit crimes should eventually be forgiven, right? I don't know Chris or…

It just seems like working the system a bit. In this country, there are already LOTS of government benefits for mothers, so for getting the summer pay it seems more like she wants to get paid for a job she didn't do. There is also 3 months of parental leave available for mothers and fathers, and another pregnant…

I totally agree with this post, however, on a personal level, I know some women who commit what I think is abuse of their benefits.

I LOVE cats. I've always had at least one, but in the past few years, my general allergies have gotten a lot worse. I'm afraid I'm developing or will develop an allergy to cats. But I dont' care! It would take an apocalypse to prevent me from owning a cat!

I've definitely noticed this. I haven't lived in the US for 12 years, and the times I've visited since then I have really noticed that American girls/women my age sounds different than they used to, and different from me. Weird.

This is only tangentially related, but I've always wondered about people who sleep with the opposite gender before they come out. Like, a friend of mine is a 40something year old gay man, but he was in his mid 20s when he came out, and he always talks about girlfriends he had during his "straight" years. I can…

I'm slightly shocked by this. The only guy who even made a slight sound of disappointment about wearing a condom was a douchey one night stand in college. Every guy I've been with since has been more than willing to use one. My boyfriend and I have sex without a condom to start out, but once things get more intense,…

The guys I've been with have been fine, actually more than fine, with my vibe. Though my current guy is interested in using it together, but I'm still a little shy about that, I think...

I was never all that bothered about blue eyes - though they can be very pretty - because I happen to have very striking green cat eyes. However, my new crush has the most gorgeous bright blue eyes, and one of them has a stripe of dark brown. I literally get weak in the knees when I look into his eyes... Sigh...

OMG, thank you so much for introducing me to this! I've been off the pill because I hate how hormones affect me, and I'm thinking about what to do if I get into a relationship. I hate relying on condoms, and I dont' really want the heavier and more painful periods that I've heard of with traditional IUDs. So YEY! I'm…

JGL, NO!! Don't do it! Don't fall for her sultry yet soulless appeal!

Beyonce has enough charisma to make sitting quietly look interesting. But I HATE this song. It's just a bunch of key changes.

Is it "the Ukraine", or just "Ukraine"? Why would they get a "the"?

Hmmm...

Yeah that's true, but I live in Europe, and there are lots of children's portions or menus. Not for higher end restaurants, but for your average neighbourhood cafe/restaurant, many do have kids' options.

Some of these things are pretty, but most look like fancy department store clothing that my Barbie had in 1990.

Thank you, this is really supportive and useful. I will try to find a counselor, for many reasons actually, of which this is only one. Good advice, too, about getting tested, I'll sort that out this week.