I think it's the whole "conditioning" factor - thinner (or taller) is "better". Plus sized-focused designers use size 14/16 models just like petite-focused designers use 5'4", sometimes even 5'5" models, even though most of their clients are 5'2" or below.

That's why I read blogs. I can find a lot of sites with bloggers who're my size and I get tips from them.

Padding as well as certain camera angles will make one look a completely different size. They also stretch a lot of celebs or pose them with shorter objects so they'd look like they're 6' tall when they're really 5'3".

Yes, the "black bourgeoisie" don't "get" me either. They might do a better job at understanding me, but they're no better than multigeneration WASPs. It's not about being "elite" or "not elite" but whether they have a full understanding of the child/grandchild of immigrants experience. Thus, second or third…

I saw The Sound of Music for the first time when I was around 4 years old. We had just bought a VCR... I was probably too young to know what a crush meant, but looking back, Christopher Plummer = mmmmmmm......:)

On the earlier immigrants: I think there are a lot of issues between the multigeneration Chinese Canadians and those who've arrived more recently as well. There is a language factor (the Hong Kong immigrants who came in the mid 1980s onward speak "standard" Cantonese (basically what you hear on TV and radio) while…

Not giving any excuses, but it's not like Vancouver is 50% multigeneration East Asian. The vast majority of Asians in Canada came within the last 25-40 years. Also, I think a lot of multigenerational white people are jealous that the new Asian immigrants are all wealthy and buying multimillion dollar homes while the…

I prefer "non-white," since it seems (on this board, and in most North American-based academic writing) Person of Colo(u)r (POC) seems to refer to those who lack socio-economic privilege, have little representation in the white collar sectors, etc, etc... (at the same time, I also don't understand when people say that…

As a non-white person (I *HATE* the term POC - especially on this board - because it usually implies that the individual is lower income and/or lacks family connections), whenever I talk about *MY* experiences, I feel that both non-whites and whites don't quite "get it" unless they come from a similar suburban/upper…

I once had a similar dream - I was dating a Chinese guy and his mom was one of those crazy tai-tai types (basically a lady who lunches) who just wasn't nosy and criticized me because I was "not Chinese enough," but the clothes I wore, where I shopped, etc...luckily it was just a dream. It would have been TOUGH to…

But we know that if YOU were a guy and he a girl, no one would bat an eye.

The thing is, cultures change. The Chinese culture my parents were exposed to growing up in the 50s and 60s is very different from the Chinese culture now - especially with the younger generation (20 and 30-somethings - the children of my parents' friends) from more well-off/upper middle class families with a foreign…

I was warned by my grandmother never to date a white guy over and over, from the age of like, three. She would tell me, over and over, that like Madame Butterfly, said guy will leave me and marry a white girl. She would also tell me that we'd be "culturally very different." I didn't quite get the first part and…

Integrated? You're probably not first generation Canadian born Chinese. Out my extended family and their circle of friends (who're also from Hong Kong, with first generation CBC children), I was one of maybe three who married a non-Chinese man. And out of the three, one had a non-Chinese stepfather (her mom married…

I guess these freak shows are teaching us what NOT to be like, thus keeping with the channel's (original) name... Not that we're learning anything.

Yeah...and that tall skinny priest seemed more right wing Evangelical than a typical Anglican.

When my now-husband and I were dating, either he picked up the bill or we split 50/50. I don't think I've ever paid - at least not for a full meal. I have had the cheque presented to me a few times when we were going out - even at stuffy old-fashioned steak houses. That's probably due to a different issue, though.

I think older men with names that are now more common for women have it worse than women with names formerly male-exclusive. I once worked with a guy whose name was Ashley. Yeah...he got lots of calls for Ms. Lastname and did not like it one bit. I think women named Jordan don't have it as bad.

For people with not-so-ethnic given names, but ethnic-sounding last names: Do you ever wonder if prospective employers see you as more "assimilated" because you have a first name that is more (for a lack of a better word) "common"? I, like 99.999999% of Canadians of Chinese descent have an "English" name (though not…

Funny that they list Amy as a very "white" girl's name. I went to school with about five Amys - four were Asian.