Chubby lady with a gorgeously thin partner. You won't. You on top does not = your entire body weight crushing him. You will be fine. You could try him sitting (back to the headboard) and you holding the headboard for balance, or in a chair/on the couch with the same idea. Or, you on top, but hovering slightly above…

Not that your worrying is unfounded, I think with STI-possibilities it is ALWAYS FOUNDED ALWAYS to worry, but:

I figure you are only a bad feminist if you aren't one. I do think there are some objective truths about feminism, but there's a lot of personal interpretation and choice. Your value of your virginity definitely falls in that camp, of "totally your choice, you feel your feelings, lady!" Caring that it be a certain…

Lost at 21. In terms of pacing with friends, I was in the last third or so of the pack. I had been working a lot on my health and my confidence at the time; before that year didn't think dating or sex were even options for me, so was ready for it to get gone. I lost it to someone I didn't know well, he basically…

Long distance for 3 years and some change now. Granted, my dynamic is different because I met my partner online (this was unintentional, but hey) We're international, have spent time visiting each other, and he's moving to the U.S. in two months for our relationship.

Stoli has my heart/mouth/liver. It's a very...buttery vanilla. Absolut has a harder edge, it wants recognition for all the hard work it is doing getting you drunk. The only one I've ever thought awful was Grey Goose. Go figure.

Vanilla and diet, here. Tastes, as a friend who is solely whiskey-and-diet claims, like "cookie dough." I was a vodka cranberry in my early college days until I realized how badly the juice was spiking my blood sugar and diet cranberry juice is awful. Basically, vanilla vodka can disappear in most dark diet sodas and…

I had a guy that I went out and fooled around with, who disappeared off of the face of the planet get in touch with me awhile ago. My only response to being asked to get together again was literally just to write: "Why?" I really wonder about the other person's frame of understanding for what happened, and how they'd…

Exercise. It's the last thing you'll want to do and it will fall to the bottom of your list, if you're not on a regular routine, but it is really the only thing I've ever noticed to have alleviated depressive symptoms. Go regularly. If you already do this, GREAT! It will help, in the long run. You can try forming new…

Living with a significant other (I'm female, he's male) for the first time in about 2 months. Tips on stuff you wish you did/knew/avoided/whatever'd in such a circumstance?

I like reading http://www.thelingerieaddict.com/ sometimes, for sales on high price stuff, recommendations for what to splurge/not splurge on. Though a little bit old lady, you might try a lingerie department in a good department store. I think I did Lord & Taylor and got my hands on lots of Hanky Panky stuff. Great…

Long hair can be fine, it just depends on what hair type, how healthy it looks/feels, etc. A friend (female, who is tiny, gorgeous and has hair like FIRE) was married last year to a strapping man with long, dark hair that blows in the breeze like an effortless cape. (He's also from a heritage that is just like "you…

It's a fab dress, because the color combination seems so strong I'm hesitant to try to style it in a ton of different ways, because I think part of the point of a dress like this is to be a statement piece by itself. I love color blocking for that, it's kind of its own accessory. If you wanted to push further, you…

I struggle with this, in particular with my body. I have no tips that are sure to do anything, but the one bit of advice that always seemed to strike me as having some kind of power (even if only temporary) was to think about, really honestly, what another person might SAY about you to you, not knowing anything else,…

I was huge in high school, and felt like this girl. And I guarantee, she knew what she was and how people saw her, and hated it. I can make a lot of excuses for my weight issues, and some of them are absolutely legitimate, but bottom line is: I contributed to my weight problem, I knew it, but I had no control and was…

Not to contradict mmelouve, who is kind of right, but there's also a sort of blanket: "no one looks at your grad school grades" policy in academic job markets; they don't really mean much, as most campuses won't have the same coursework. Like, maybe a broad stroke class (for me, this would be basic stat) it'd make…

Social role theory; of course each gender has needs and different skills based on biology, but those needs and skills become excessively associated with one group to the exclusion of the other, and each group is consistently placed in certain professions or social roles, which has groomed them (from either side) to be…

It is nonsensical to suggest that studies conducted on current, living samples that are bound to present cultural and social rules can be effectively compared to groups on which we have, at best, minimal qualitative data. It is nonsensical to use evolutionary psychology as the go-to post-hoc explanation for any…

Agreed. Social psychologist who does gender/sex stuff, our main competition for relationship reasoning is evo psych and it is SO MUCH BULLSHIT THAT I CAN'T EVEN. I'm sorry, if you can nod your head knowingly all "yes...yes...cavemen did it...that makes perfect sense" you are just a massive twat.

Doctor, but yes, biotin (B...6? I'm pretty sure) is the supplement said to aid hair & nail growth. You'd be better off though, if you don't regularly already, adding a strong multi or a B-specific (as in, all of them) to a multi. Fair warning; B supplements (save B12) smell nasty for some reason.