You don't have to partake if you don't want. With most dudes, I would calmly, but firmly bring their attention back up...boob/neck/mouthwardly. I'm totally for equal opportunity, ladies getting all kinds of tongued, but it's no travesty to be without if you decide that's more comfortable. I think part of the problem…

This is not surprising, but it has implications for sexual aggression. In The Beauty Myth, Naomi Wolf cites studies from Emory & Auburn universities which suggest that men who preferred images of pain to pleasure, when confronted with close-up images of both, were also substantially more likely to have committed an…

Skype. No, but for serious. My partner is Irish and I'm American, we can afford to see each other maybe twice a year and have 3 years of long distance under our belts. Skype when you cook dinner. Skype as you're opening your mail. Skype watching a movie together, whatever. And yes, I'm going to recommend Skype sexy…

I do not know how I managed to overlook the fact that I am desperately attracted to Rashida Jones until now, but there it is. I figured it out.

I'm a bit troubled that this write-up leans toward some sort of causative mechanism. From the abstract provided in another comment, this is a correlational study and can't speak to depression/life satisfaction CAUSING anything to happen. I'm also bothered that this study doesn't appear to look at some really super…

So, some of my answer depends on his awareness level/openness about it and whether he's cool with toys. I love sex with my guy, but cannot get off penile-vaginally without really awkward contortions for me to touch myself. Somewhat helpful has been a vibrating cock ring (ours is called a "Duo" and I purchase it on…

Salat, by E. Ethelbert Miller

I'm definitely no expert here, but I'm in an LDR with a man I love desperately but we're on different continents, so we're "open." No matter how many conversations we have about what is and is not acceptable, there's something that's going to hurt. I'm quite sensitive about this particular issue (I grew up an ugly…

Central NJ: They're plowing the streets now, but we got probably 6-8 inches of snow. A lot of the trees that didn't come down with Sandy are hanging pretty heavy, and that seems to be a decent worry. My neighborhood has a few downed power lines and trees/limbs blocking roads. I have power and we just had a boil water…

YMMV, but for me: "older" dudes, 40+. If it's on the young side of the range, a middle class or above level job that offers him some level of entitlement. If it's 60+, unknown. I tend to think the 60+ age group mostly want to correct my face and its horrible configuration of "not smiling" because of a generation…

Let's be best friends forever because David Buss can clearly go jump up his own ass. <3

I've been remiss not to also include trans relationships, where both partners through transition are of the same gender. My apologies, though the question still certainly applies, if the non-transitioning member of the couple is female, is maintaining the relationship more successful?

Legitimate question: Are trans* relationships which began before physical transition of one partner (if not before the mental and emotional components of transitioning) more successful, generally, between two assigned-at-birth females than two assigned-at-birth males?

Point blank: you are thinking too much about this right now. I get it, I totally do, and you have real concerns that are real reasons that couples have had issues. I don't think you're being unreasonable in thinking about it, but I do think that you've jumped so far ahead on the timeline that it's affecting your…

Try not to be doubtful of your own worth in this situation. Your worth to him? Sure, maybe a bit, if only because your doubt could facilitate his own doubt. But mostly, try not to doubt your worth for yourself. Him being hot does not inherently make him *anything* but, you know, hot. And it doesn't mean he "deserves"…

Absolutely. In addition, dependent on circumstance in some areas of academia, attractiveness is downplayed in (non-deliberate, but still) exchange for professional cred. I work in gender psych, I have known many awesome, sexy (for tons of reasons), conventionally attractive women in my field who 1) don't have…

I went out with a close friend tonight after having a fight with my partner. My friend is a therapist-in-training, he pointed out, as he has on previous occasions, that I'm very frightened by my own anger, that I dissociate from it. I often turn anger at others into depression and disappointment with myself. He's…

Not necessarily specifically "break up" good, but Netflix is great for TV marathoning, which, if you can't cope another way, is helpful: Buffy, 30 Rock, Park & Recreation, Dr. Who, Downton Abbey, the IT Crowd, and Archer are some of my favorites for times when I just don't want to cope with my own reality and are all…

PS: I totally get being rejected, not all proposals get funded, rejection is a major part of asking for money from any institution. But it should not be obvious that any rejection is about a difference of opinion; don't give them an opinion that has any potential to have much reasonable difference: bullying is bad,…

So, I'm going to be the terrible pragmatist that ruins shit. I'm a graduate student who does feminist psychology research and my adviser and I bonded and knew we would be in forever twue wuv because in our first meeting, we talked hella Dworkin. I feel the need to put for feminist cred, sadly, for what I'm about to…