I think part of the problem, personally, is the pile of microaggressions that go with being overweight, that are seldom noticed for what they are. I think it would feel authentic to never have the character's weight mentioned directly TO her by others, but it wouldn't feel authentic for her to never have experiences…

I know, right? I do not know how she pulled any of that off, because conceptually, if someone described those outfits, they *sound* trashy (and some do look it, if they were worn by anyone else. See: "Rich Bitch" necklace) but she looked HOT.

I wonder specifically about her, because her heritage is (I believe) Ecuadorean. I think often of a friend of mine who has said it is quite difficult for him, as a Latino man, to be very light/white skinned and that there's both envy and condemnation of his skin tone within his community. I've wondered about…

While I feel this is possibly accurate, in the sense that Jay might have sex with other women, I cannot even begin to believe that Bey would not know and have worked it all out to the most minute level. She is perfection personified, no way is she letting anyone mess with that.

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No. joke. I think that every time someone suggests keeping a food journal. I've managed it when I'm just writing down food/serving (not that I've enjoyed it) but once you ask me for any more information, fuck that noise. I refuse to believe that all fit people do this and it's a normal behavior.

Srsly. They are awesome.

I had to google that, because it would be awesome if he were into larger women and on the record somewhere. Looks like it was a focus when he was in Hairspray, people asking him how he felt about playing a guy who likes a fat girl. He said something to the effect of: "It is nice, because I like to date healthy,…

In my experience, it was a combination. I'm not sure if the OKC algorithm counts messages you start and get a response to, or if it has to be ones that you're responding to as the person being messaged. (e.g., these guys may actually be pretty active, but they're starting the conversation rather than responding to…

Terror management theorists in social psych basically boil the idea to: "Everything your body does reminds you that you will die someday and it. is. awful." They pretty much have the patent on explaining disgust (e.g., we're real grossed out by cloths soaked in green or red liquids, because the body makes those…

I'd agree that it's at least partially an age issue, as predominantly we hear about predation in under 30 groups, but there are also incidences of mostly male environments geared older/younger like scout groups, charity clubs (elks or similar) or coaches and athletic training groups, with older men sometimes forming a…

I have consistently wanted to get my hands on some data regarding sexual attitudes in the armed forces (I'm a researcher who sometimes works with sexual aggression.) A massive amount of abuse happens in majority male environments, there has to be something communicated within the group, consciously or not, that…

I hate to agree with an outdated adage, but the whole "best revenge is a life lived well" is how I content myself. I was bullied, and as a child of the internet, have a lot of connections to former tormentors, because hey! in internet time, it's been FOREVER and they can totally add my social profiles! It really…

I'm not terribly in touch with my emotions and their needs, my family has never "done" emotion, we ignore them, squash them, or most frequently try to handle them logically, which keeps us from exploding at each other but makes us a bit robot-like in a lot of respects. I sometimes feel pulled between extreme "feelings…

Any other Jezzies with painfully undamaged partners? I've been through more than I care to say, with chronic illnesses, major depression, and a lifetime of bullying battle scars, for *daring* to live in the body I do. Full disclosure: I was super morbidly obese for most of my teens, I had bariatric surgery, it was the…