Haha, ohhh man. Fucking softball. I'm kind of in the same boat, my parents always told my brother and I they wanted to "expose" us to a variety of activities, and they did. We both had piano lessons and endless sports and activities. I did ballet and Girl Scouts. My dad coached my softball team from tee-ball…

I'm not surprised, and a little relieved to hear that actually. I messaged some of the couples for awhile just to try and find out what the fuck was going through their heads and they ran the gamut from "it's something we/she has always wanted to try" to people who identified themselves as queer/polyamorous who just…

Oh THAT'S why I'm a lesbian. My poor parents. If only they'd known that sending me to camp out in tents with other girls and learn basket weaving (a staple of our particular troop, for some reason) for 12 years was steadily turning me gay. So much anguish could have been avoided. I should have been sharing tents…

It's because everyone assumes the Girl Scouts were somehow an offshoot of the Boy Scouts, which is Christian. It's unfortunate, and I can't even believe I'm saying this, but maybe it's time for the Girl Scouts to work on rebranding? Because they're definitely not in the same camp (haha) as the bigoted, anti-gay Boy…

Heard this review on NPR last night contrasting The Book of Jezebel with the latest Bridget Jones installment and love, love, loved it. Everyone should give it a listen or a read, it's pretty great.

I understand what you're saying, believe me, but I've seen comments from authors in the past explaining why they phrased a title a certain way, and it's usually because of a character limit in Kinja's publishing software. So I think, because marriage equality is not yet legal throughout these United States, the…

I've dated openly bisexual women. Speaking from experience, lesbians who would be turned off by your bisexuality really aren't worth your time. There's definitely a stigma against bisexuality, even (and maybe especially) in the LGBTQ community itself, so I understand exactly where you're coming from. I dated men…

Yeah, I hear ya. I'm kind of an androgynous, middle of the road lesbian, so I think I had a sort of mass appeal, unfortunately. The really obnoxious part was that the hookup invites seemed to be primarily driven by the females in the hetero partnerships. A lot of "I've always felt a little bit bi and wanted to…

So not to project, and there may not be anything "wrong" with you at all, but I was in therapy for a few years in my mid-20s to sort out a lot of stuff in my own head. During that time, I dated and it went terribly. I attracted people with all sorts of crazy hangups and quirks. And not the fun kind of quirks, the…

As a lesbian, I couldn't BELIEVE how many straight couples messaged me asking if I wanted to join them for a threesome. A lot of people have a lot of annoying, insulting, dehumanizing fetishes, but online there's a simple solution: just block their fucked up profile and move on to the non-weirdos.

It takes time. I know that's a lame response, but it's true. I looked and looked and looked and almost gave up hope when the profile of a beautiful, brilliant, talented girl suddenly popped up in my area. Turns out she'd gotten out of a long-term relationship about a year earlier and had just then decided she was…

Not if you're gay-o, and live in a state that doesn't let you marry-o...

I think the stigma is still there, for sure, but I think it's also a great option for people who don't have the kind of pickup skills required for the "traditional" dating scene. My circumstances, for example, precluded me from finding a partner for a long time. I'm just not a bar person. I'm also a lesbian. And a…

Meh. People lie, online or off, I really don't think it's an online dating phenomenon. I was painfully honest in my profile, (including, for example the fact that I'm 26 and live with my parents), because hey, whoever I might want to date would figure that shit out pretty quickly anyway. I found that most people…

Nick Offerman's book "Paddle Your Own Canoe" examines this phenomenon (and what can be done about it) in exquisite, glorious detail. His thesis is that everyone should be capable of basic self-care and work on honing some special skills and "disciplines" throughout their lives, for the benefit of body, mind, and…

I had some tough bosses that I hated at the time but have since realized really helped me along in life and therefore appreciate, despite their capacity for dickishness. The WORST boss(es) I ever had, however, were the co-managers of a retail clothing store I worked at. Our store was always the worst in the region…

When I saw "sperm donor siblings" I thought it was referring to (obviously male) siblings who agree to donate sperm to their lesbian/infertile siblings. Which is something I've been thinking a lot about since I'm a lesbian with a brother and have been wondering if I (and should I) ask him for such a favor when the…

First of all, state laws vary, but it is generally considered lewd behavior for prisoners to expose their genitalia or masturbate. If witnessed by staff, punishment can range from internal discipline to further criminal charges. Prisoners are not free citizens, therefore they cannot behave like they're in the privacy…

Anyone who cares that prison guards are falsifying records... anyone who wants assurance that convicted rapists are serving their sentences without being given the freedom to pleasure themselves in the manner of their choosing... anyone who sees a problem with the fact that he was sentenced to life but only served a…

Really? You don't care that prison guards are falsifying records and pretending to check on inmates instead of doing the job for which we as taxpayers are paying them? You don't care that he was sentenced to life in prison but only served a month, when his victims lost a decade of their lives? What's the point of life…