Adoptee here. I think it’s really great that you want to adopt, especially adopt an older child, since one’s “marketability” decreases exponentially w/ age. I do agree with pandorasmittens that this is not really an equivalent issue when dealing with the fact that women don’t have a right to bodily autonomy.

I had a college friend who got pregnant in HS and gave the baby up for adoption. Only then to be sued by the babydaddy (who showed no interest in the baby when she was pregnant and was abusive) to end the adoption several months after giving birth.

Thank you for sharing your story, it adds to the wonderful and colorful dialogue we have going in this commentary section. I understand your viewpoint, and I agree. I agree that there is a need for foster care and adoption. I agree that we need to meet the existing demand for both. Further, I understand that not every…

But it’s not always possible. I was using birth control to avoid getting pregnant, because my health is not such that pregnancy would be non-dangerous. When I got pregnant nonetheless, there was no way I was staying pregnant and going through that risk for someone else’s gratification. Frankly, I’m not a broodmare.

Insurance may have been the reason she did nt go elsewhere (out of network) BUT: that does not take away the fact that this is at best immature behavior, and at worse utterly disgusting and dehumanizing. at least this is now out and people are aware. While the lady may not be able ot sue, people may be able to avoid…

Great insight! I missed that, Thanks.

I’m not forcing anyone to do anything. There is quite literally a very large demand for foster care and adoption in America. I am one of the few folks that want to make the lives of a child in this circumstance better. Not sure how this became a discussion on me forcing my ideals onto someone else. I am just…

Adoption doesn’t fit the narrative though, because it’s giving a choice or way out.

Thank you for that wonderful insight!

I understand it’s hard, I have not done it I lack the appropriate equipment. However I can provide insight from the loving husband perspective. I can provide insight on “geriatric” pregnancy, I can provide insight on type-2 diabetic pregnancy and the difficulty in controlling diabetes during pregnancy. And I can…

Adoption is an alternative to raising a child but it’s not really comparable to abortion. The chances of medical issues caused by pregnancy don’t decline when the pregnant woman has an adoption plan. The physical effects of pregnancy that might cause a woman to have to stop working while pregnant don’t stop when the…

Thank you. Not sure how I turned out the way I did, but I’m glad I did. I had a very chaotic childhood, After my birth Mom and dad divorced, mom then married same sex, dad went through 6, yes 6 marriages. I was raised by Dad and wife# 2, 3 and a little from#4. Both mom and dad are docs FWIW. Sis went to the UK and…

You forgot to add in the propulsive force of my tail lights.

I agree. My best friend and her family are unabashedly anti abortion. It took YEARS for me to feel comfortable enough to tell my story to her.

No diss, sincere shock at your existence. I know they exist, too but, there aren’t many who aren’t single or gay.

Thanks?

“ I’m black, and I want to adopt a black child older than 2.”

Agreed, and I am not forcing my ideas onto anyone. Just attempting to have an adult dialogue about a very touchy subject. Thankfully this is what makes America great, the fact that we can disagree and still be neighbors.

They will build it... but change it ever so slightly... into a minivan

You aint lying. Hospitalists make mad loot. But have crazy student loan debt.