I didn’t see anyone up in arms when he spent like 20 minutes ragging HARD on OJ Simpson.

Bill Maher is trash.

She knew exactly what the fuck she was doing.

“The first kid who finds out that there’s no Santa is an asshole.

I may steal your book recommendation because I feel your words so hard right now. I actually had a moment yesterday where Ex was being not awful that I couldn’t fully articulate until just now.

I am so sorry. I wish I could offer you all the support and assistance you need to get away.

Thank you so much for adding another layer of perspective to this. That was really important to consider.

Colorism hurts my heart, my family is generally full of medium to dark skinned folks. That said, I usually stay out of discussions about colorism because it rarely is a nuanced conversation.

I apologize for the crass term, but I felt it fit the crass nature of the concept. Regrettably, it seems that there are so many layered mechanisms in place to reduce women to sex objects.

The way the issue was brought to her door definitely made her feel some type of way and her reaction spiraled into something she wasn’t prepared for. Both her feelings and those of her critics were valid, but people got caught up on the words she used because she didn’t know how to have that conversation.

Agreed...I just find it interesting that you led with the concept of “fuckability,” since black women in America were initially viewed as chattel, and their repeated and brutal violation is how many of us light-skinned folks got here. When I think of the pain and toxicity wrapped up in just that fact, I can’t help but…

That’s my hope, too. While Shipp’s terminology definitely seemed off (though maybe not, since she’s biracial, and has likely experienced racism differently, as a result), it also seemed far too easy to dismiss her for the sake of her poorly chosen semantics. She felt rejected, and in expressing her anger over that…

I wish I could hug you. I “joked” when I was married that I stayed married because as bad as he was as a husband, I could only imagine what he would do as an ex. I had no idea the levels he would stoop. Except now, instead of getting it every day for hours and days at a time with a few periods of quiet and normalcy…

Omg. I think we have the same life.

OMG yes all of this.

Yup.

That’s really what is so frustrating. I had to come to terms with this all over again on Monday. I had two weeks between being yelled at by a judge and Ex ramping up his verbal abuse again. The explosion wasn’t terrible this time around as it was all verbal, but it left me sobbing and vulnerable.

Because I’m a lawyer and he is not, the judge spent 15 minutes yelling at me for being a liar when I filed for a protection order. He basically told me that women who lie about rape are right up there with actual rapists and murderers.

First, I’ve got a stomach ache reading this and all I can really say is that I’m so sorry to hear that you’re still in this situation. It sounds lame and cliche but I sincerely mean it, and I hope that you’ll finally find some peace soon. I was married to an absolute monster and, though I got away 12 years ago, he…

I am so sorry you are having this experience. I am still suffering the emotional abuse from my ex-husband after a divorce that lasted 2 years. I am also a lawyer, and it did not make it magically easier to get through the court system, which no one seems to understand. Instead, I’m more resigned that I can only do so…