I don’t think there is anything wrong with saying Adults Only or explicitly asking that children remain at home. But the point is to be clear. I hate being that person that has to ask for clarity cause I don’t want to be “that person” or “here she comes asking about her kid AGAIN”.

If you’re spending time ruminating and thinking really hard about if you can bring your kids or not, it seems that you’re wasting your time. I actually think this whole article is a waste of time. Pick up the phone and call whoever invited you and ask. PROBLEM SOLVED.

And to think...all she had to do was take off her glasses and let her hair down!

Obviously my husband’s going to leave my practical shoe wearing ass any minute now.

Right after I finally broke free of my father (who was sexually, physically, and emotionally abusing me) and was seeing a therapist courtesy of Victim Witness, she started telling me I was a sociopath.

It kinda seems that way to me, too. Like, he can tell that she is not ugly, it’s just that she’s a bad dresser! She’s probably model-hot under all those layers of old lady cardigans! And he really wanted to see her transformation, because (not so) deep down, he’s always wanted her. So one day she agrees to have the…

My thoughts too! The only thing I got out of this article is “I’M A SHITTY THERAPIST.” I can’t believe anyone would even want this published under his name.

Did it ever occur to him maybe she didn’t worry about looking hot when she went for THERAPY??

Real therapist here. And while I don’t work with adults here’s what I would do: spend time exploring what she wants and why she wants those specific things, what has and hasn’t worked in the past, and accepting the way things are, the challenges of dating, misogyny, being alone, not having what you want in life at any…

Can we talk about the real tragedy of this piece, which is that it is so hard and scary and difficult to get yourself to go to therapy in the first place, that the absolute last thing you need is to worry about your therapist judging you and your clothes and appearance, talking about it with his coworkers, and writing…

So sensible shoes prevent women from finding love? We need to choose to hurt ourselves or never be loved? Really? How am I married? This describes me pretty much all the time, other than not bothering with any hairdo at all....

I had a (female) therapist once tell me I should take more pride in my appearance when I leave the house. I could start by wearing better shoes and more flattering clothes.

Wow. Go Greta! There are tons of good comebacks to that, such as “go fuck yourself” and “eat a dick,” but “I dress up, asshole, just not for YOU” is a great one.

I straight up refuse to see therapists who are men. I avoid avoid doctors who are men as much as possible. Once went to see a doctor who was a man for a physical and he proceeded to tell me I was healthy but there were things I could do to be more attractive. (I’m not, nor have I ever been overweight so it wasn’t even…

This drives me crazy - people ‘stating the obvious’ as if we aren’t bombarded with this messaging nearly every moment of life. Do you really think that telling me that I should be skinner or show more cleavage or wear sexier shoes is news? “Wait, what? You’re telling me that big boobs and perfect grooming are…

It would seem to me that Hellerstein is probably writing this out of frustration that the story didn’t end in a Penthouse Letters type scenario, as his writing style tends to allude to.

Neither, hopefully, because every single thing he’s said or done in this piece (including writing this piece in the first place) is so far beyond the pale of anything I would ever even BEGIN to consider saying to or about a patient that the only way I will be able to sleep tonight is if I imagine him as some random…

Oh my God I can’t even believe his piece was even published. I understand the existence of the single asshole that wrote it, that happens. But how did it get through editing? Who was like, “Seems legit. Fire it!”?

Basiccccaaaallllyyyyyyyyyy, I don’t want to fuck you and you will not dress up and parade around like a show horse for me so no man wants to fuck you because i said so .