If I knew, I wouldn't spend most of my time there. I know that an author following you is one way, but there are other times when it mystifies me. I've been in the grey ever since my original Gawker account was hacked in the great hacking debacle of several years ago.

Because the comments raised from the grey should contribute to the conversation without being personal, sexist attacks on the author. I agree that contrasting viewpoints should be showcased, however I don't think that calling someone a "vag with a vendetta" contributes to the tone.

Ok, when I first saw this comment it was not in the grey and there were no replies or stars. Hopefully this comment goes back to the grey, but I really don't understand how it wasn't there in the first place. This person (and I use that term loosely) consistently trolls with sexist crap, and is generally left in the…

That is magical. Sticking it to the man and getting a wedding dress in the bargain!

Funny, I don't feel coddled.

Duh, everyone knows Repubs use Grindr and Rentboy. Craigslist is so passe.

A quick search reveals these times when they have commented on Japanese cultural appropriation:

So no one should stick up for my culture if they're not sticking up for other cultures? Cool. Thanks for nothing.

• Washing my Diva Cup

I am Native American. I am upset by this girl wearing a headdress. The headdress is not equivalent to a kimono because a kimono is not part of the spiritual custom of the Japanese culture. A kimono should not be worn as a costume, but it is also not an item of religious significance to the culture that created it. If…

Thanks, but my culture is not demolished or even nearly so. Treating us as if we are gone does help to contribute to our lack of visibility, and makes casual racism towards us feel more acceptable though, I'm sure. It probably helps the town council of the town near my reservation sleep at night when they choose not…

Minor point, but we're not all dead. We're still around.

It's not up to me to police Catholic outrage over nun and priest garments. I would never disrespect someone else's religion or culture by using them as a costume. That is not relevant to this discussion.

In my tribe headdresses are sacred. They have meaning, both personal and cultural. Wearing it out of context, as fashion or a jape is offensive. Additionally, Native American culture has been oppressed, co-opted, suppressed, and parodied throughout US history. When the dominant culture continues to exoticise us, place…

Barf.

Here's a secret: Any dress is a wedding dress if you get married in it. Boom. Take that wedding industry! That's how I only spent $30 (in 1990) for my wedding outfit: By not giving a shit about labels. My friend recently spent about $150 for her wedding dress the same way. And she looked gorgeous and was super…

You can always ask them back to your place on a pretext like 'coffee.' If you have intense pants-feels for anyone, I highly recommend it.

I did, but it wasn't there. I finally got a notice about an hour ago: 5.5 hours after this article was posted. They must have been batching and I was in a later batch.

That sounds super annoying. I usually just read on my Kindle with the guided view, and that works fine on or off-line so I don't have that problem. It seems like a really dumb thing for DRM to interfere with, too.

Kaylee, Princess Leia, London, and a beaver! (The last one is actually kind of cool, because my tribal name is Beaver Woman.)