dont hurt em, Hari

Was Pete Wentz even alive in the ‘80s?

She actually addressed that in her article - it very easily could have happened on her watch, but if it had, she wouldn’t spend the rest of her life wondering if she should blame someone else.

Well in Canada you get a year and their economy hasn’t collapsed yet, so that sounds pretty reasonable.

It also sounds like a problem with our healthcare system that she couldn’t leave her job because she was the one with the benefits.

It doesn’t sound like they couldn’t afford to have children though; just that they couldn’t afford to have one of the parents out of work.

Yup. My boss gives us each $100 for Xmas. We give him squat. Because he’s very wealthy, and we’re plebs. I don’t even have a retirement account. Boss gets zippo.

I do have a significant relationship with my boss (I've worked with her for over a decade) and while we are still close, we're not as close as we once were due to the demands of her high powered job and the evolution of my job. But I'm questioning whether or not to get her something this year. I got her something last…

All I get from staff is a card from the receptionist signed by her and her cats.

Never buy a gift for your boss! Never.

Clearly you don’t work with Chinese people. ::cries::

I wish we could just no gifts at work period. If you’re friends with your coworker or boss and want to gift, go for it. But, like, real life friends. No work gifting.

I agree. However I once had a boss (I was the 3rd person in my job in 3 years -shoulda been a red flag) who actually commented that she used to get gifts and now didn’t. I think she was suggesting I should get her a gift. I pulled from my dad’s “gifts for business associates” pile. It was weird.

As a state employee, this is actually law for me; I can gift down, but can not accept any gift from below valued at $3 or more. It’s a good thing.

Also cosigned, though I will say my manage-ee who sent me a birthday present is like my favorite person on the team. So sucking up works for me (we’re also friends outside work and she got me something super cheap that was a reference to a conversation we had).

Agreed. It’s awkward with my subordinates. I give all of them the same token (Amazon card, chocolates from a local place, etc.). But then some of them give me something, some don’t, people end up looking around at the others to see what they should do...but it seems weird to tell them all “Etiquette says I give you…

Gift cards. Any store, any amount is HUGELY appreciated.

NO. Food gifts to the entire department/cube section/etc are appropriate, but there is no way on God’s Green Earth that I’m buying my boss a gift. For that matter, I’ve never received a gift from a boss other than food gifts meant for the group as a whole. What is wrong with people?

Gifts should flow down and not up in the workplace. Boss person can buy their own shit.

Perhaps you should find a man instead of a child.