I’m pretty sure we are not even allowed to do it in my office.

Make that four out of four.

Opting out of the boss gift at my last office job, or even bringing up how inappropriate the concept is/was, was effectively impossible because the team was so small and the main gift-getter was both a huge kiss ass/buddy-buddy with the boss and one of the longest standing employees, so everyone basically made a…

It’s specifically against our company policy to gift anyone higher up than us. We can’t even pay for coffee on the company card or anything like that for a higher up. I get Christmas cards for them though :) And if there is a bake sale I will buy everyone a cupcake (I actually really like my bosses haha)

Cosigned - another boss.

No! No! No! These would be appropriate gifts for employees, not the boss. I have a few direct reports, and if anyone bought me a gift, it would be extremely uncomfortable. If your boss expects a gift, your boss is an asshole.

Absolutely agree. There is no way to do it correctly and any boss who expects one doesn’t get it.

I never gift up. The most our department does is give a card + gift card for some kinda self care spa type thing + flowers at the end of the year because we love our boss and she works so hard to advocate for us. But for like Xmas? No way. I might bring in homemade cookies/candy for our secretaries but I do the same…

Double cosigned, another boss.

Glad someone said it! I thought maybe I was being an old about it.

Speaking as a boss, please do not get your boss a gift for the holidays. However, keeping with the “gift down” rule, they should def get you one. A card from you is plenty.

Oh... noooooope. No buying gifts for the boss!

Unless you and your boss have a friendship/love affair outside the office, I’m a firm believer in No Gifts for Boss. Gifts go <i>down</i> the corporate hierarchy, not up. Even milestone gifts (marriage, new baby, retirement) should be shouldered by the company, not its employees.

Don’t buy a gift for your boss. Gifts at work are weird, and if they’re going to be done at all, should really only flow downward.

Lesbians are known dine and dashers. It’s actually part of their gay agenda.

I’m sorry, but are you seriously judging Anne Frank’s father- who outlived her and spent his life building a foundation in her name after compiling and protecting her words- for wanting to make a profit for that foundation to continue its good work?? I literally do not see any harm in this. What is the problem with…

I’m no lawyer, but I am a writer, so I’ve been forced to learn a thing or two about how intellectual property law works.

That’s hilarious because no man of mine has ever done those things on my car, unless it was a task I specifically asked him to do. Also, your examples are things that take about 30 minutes total per year to complete. So you’re not really making the point you think you are.

BUT asking is the problem! Why should she HAVE to ask in the first place? He should recognize that the fucking kitchen needs cleaning too! I mean if me and my boyfriend could look at each other and simultaneously say ‘huh, the kitchen needs cleaning.’ and then both resume eating cereal, THAT WOULD BE FINE. It’s not…

Why didn’t we just ask? How could we not think of that! The problem is that the asking and asking again, and again, and getting frustrated because you’ve asked 15 times and nothing has changed is part of the very same emotional labour we’re trying to dispense with. If asking worked we wouldn’t be having this…