Yes. This is massive labor. For everything my husband has picked up, it’s taken months or years to get him to notice that it’s important (to me or to our family in general), and then get him to act or be responsive, and then for him to be consistent with it? It’s huge labor.

Here’s a prime example of what this article is about. We’re all here to read about and discuss the topic of women’s emotional labor. There have been several articles on men’s emotional issues and how we can better ensure that men and boys are allowed a full range of human emotion. And yet here is a man derailing one…

How about... If your spouse/boyfriend/whatever neglects to do any of the “emotional work,” and you feel that it’s vital he do, then you ask him to do so?

I’m sorry - are you telling women they need to be more sensitive to expectations put on men, and their needs, on a post that’s literally about women being unfairly required to shoulder the burden of men’s needs, and their family’s needs, without reciprocation?

Goddamn, this is...so fucking accurate. I wish I could be like you, though! How are you not so attached that you feel you MUST be that person and do those things??? I’m still not there yet. I know I will never get what I give from a relationship with a man, but I don’t know how NOT to be in a full-throttle…

The biggest problem I see here is not with being too tired to argue about or teach this stuff; it’s that bringing it up at all is already doing the emotional work.

I find men to be very emotional, it is simply not called “being emotional” when they flip out and get angry. The male emotional reaction to things is considered completely rational. The weird, paranoid fragility of masculinity is also not called an emotional reaction, when it clearly is. On top of that, women are not…

Because men don’t see the emotional work. Women are socialized from birth to recognize and respond to it. Men are not. The effort to bring men up to speed is exhausting. You talk and talk and talk until you’re blue in the face, hoping for one *aha* moment, and when it happens, they expect a freaking trophy because…

To do that, you would have to serve that it needs to be done, and figure out how to say it—>just the kind of thing you are saying you won't do. It's a catch-22

Emotional expectations for men are created by men. Emotional expectations for women are also created by men. Feminists are working on this, but if you want to see change, women aren’t the people you need to snark at.

Man, I wish I was a guy. I would give fucking anything to care less. Caring and doing all this menial, stupid emotional work is fucking exhausting.

OK we'll send them all to your place. Please have them clean by morning. Thanks!

Yup. My kids always ask for “coffee”, which is just steamed milk with a little cinnamon on top for pizzazz. They feel grown up because I trust them with ceramic mugs. I’ve had to explain a couple of times that, no, my 2yos are not in fact drinking coffee.

Well it starts when your period is latte...

How babbycinno is formed?

Okay, I don’t call it that, but I buy my kids steamed milk all the time. It costs the same as non-steamed and they think they are getting something fancy. I also buy them for myself because I can’t have coffee drinks...

My advice - do not say a word. A friend of mine growing up was a little bigger than the rest of us. Not clinically obese, just a bit bigger. Her parents were always on her about it. It was horrible. And I’m sure they thought they were doing the right thing, but that child was miserable. It was diets, carrots,…

Trust me, the world will tell her she’s not thin enough - regardless of what she actually weighs - sooner than later. There’s no need for someone she loves to tell her what other girls, guys, magazines, and movies are already shoving down her throat on a daily basis.

It sounds like you might need to check why this is bothering you so much. Based on what little detail you provided “could stand to lose 10 pounds” doesn’t represent a health risk by any means so why is it important? Is it just about the way she looks?

I love you guys, I really do. But these videos are unilaterally awful. The tone is weird, and definitely not aligned with the rest of the Gawker #brand. And they’re not funny enough to be watchable given the lack of information they contain. (Really, what did this one tell me? Have friends? Play music? Pick a theme?…