Takes out the trash. Does not ask first if you want the trash taken out because you are not the queen of the trash and knows that there is no reason you would say no.

Yeah, talk about no winners.

This is absolutely something for you to work on. In therapy. Not in a sexual relationship (especially if your childhood stuff was related to sexual encounters).

And her regular partner prefers to be left in the dark about her secondary partner (who she is texting every day and seeing on the regular)? I don’t care at all about how many people are in this relationship, the problem is that one of them is clearly managing the flow of information to maintain power.

And which of her partners is married to someone else (who she’s never had a direct conversation with about the arrangement)?

Yeah, this too. Law school in this market is almost without exception a terrible idea.

It’s as bad as you can imagine.

I think soul mates are earned, not found. Move on. (Easy to say, I know - I’m trying to convince myself.)

I don’t know where you got the idea that men are participating in uncomplicated affairs all over the place - theirs mostly end in disaster too. Ask my friend who accidentally got his married affair-mate pregnant. And after her husband offered to take custody of the baby if he disappeared, he decided that he wanted to…

Oh, don’t think that this advice doesn’t come from hard-learned lessons. I can’t speak for anyone else but I’ve been there myself and I’ve watched the fallout for other people who I care about dearly. It is very difficult to navigate casual sex and intimacy when someone in your relationship is also juggling other…

You seem pretty determined so I wish you luck but I don’t think you’d be here asking for advice if you didn’t have a feeling deep down that there’s trouble down the road. I hope that it works out for you.

There are so many unattached men out there who would happily do that with you. This one has a lot of baggage that will inevitably become yours - if it hasn’t already (look back at what you’ve written and think about how much energy you’re spending on making sure that his situation is under control).

Have you fully internalized that this story has no happy ending for you? Even in the best-case scenario, you get your heart broken. Are you ok with that?

I think it’s awesome too - except for the part where everyone starts touching and moving them all! I just can’t reconcile a functional item that - by it’s very purpose - has to be moved, with an artistic arrangement that depends entirely on these parts not being moved.

Yeah, if the punchline is “make this person I care about feel foolish,” it’s probably not a great joke.

I hope Kaitlyn has sex with as many of those guys as she can. Get it girl.

I’m from Hawaii. People give cash gifts for everything, all the time, in very elaborate and public ways.

I dated a guy a while back who told me that I was only the fourth girl he’d ever had sex with. I didn’t say it out loud but all I could think was that I’d already had sex with at least four of his friends/acquaintances.

Where I’m from, it’s common to pin a hundred-dollar bill to the bouquet before the toss (same for the garter). It creates a very different tone and people don’t seem nearly so weirded out by it.

I’m taking this as a very sharp takedown of his history of domestic violence (as in, I wouldn’t fight him unless he hit me first - like he’s know to do). It seems from the comments like maybe some others interpret this differently?