You should be saving for retirement starting now. If your employer doesn’t offer a pre-tax retirement account option, open your own - an IRA (not a Roth, that’s after-tax). This also brings down your taxable income for the year and reduces your IBR payments.

I don’t think it’s obnoxious, but I’m also smarter than nearly everyone I know (it’s something that my friends joke about and I hope that’s because I don’t make them feel like I look down on them because of that). Maybe take a class at your local university extension in something that you’re interested in? Go to talks…

In some countries (like the US), you can be eligible for some kind of visa or residency status if you were the victim of a crime committed while in that country and you assist the police in solving that crime. It is, however, always very difficult to claim eligibility when you are currently in a country unlawfully.

There’s no easy/free way to leave no evidence at all. But unless you’re viewing things that you think could lead to criminal penalties, you’re probably ok. And if those are the things you’re viewing, you will get caught. (And if the issue is not about what you’re viewing but rather with a specific person, perhaps the…

A friend’s sister (who is herself super spoiled) was going on and on about how her small child’s favorite food is prosciutto and what a pain it is to always be buying him all this fancy snack meat. Lady, he doesn’t go to the grocery store.

Oh, it’s still ongoing two years later! It turned into The Great Debate among the adults about whether they were formed that way by their creator or whether they once had tails but had evolved over time to their current form. Ultimately, it appears that we have decided to teach the controversy.

It’s not a “won’t eat” thing but my favorite kid-food experience is when my 3 year-old niece asked why tortellini don’t have tails.

“Marginally more difficult”! We can’t have that now; can we?

I think you can both love someone and set very clear boundaries to not let them in your life.

I was interviewing for a legal clerkship the summer after my first year of law school. The organization was something like City Dependency Lawyers and they worked in the dependency courts (where kids are potentially moved from their parents’ care to foster care and sometimes parental rights are fully terminated). I’ve…

Man, this would have been really helpful in my last relationship. Unfortunately, I’m not sure putting the phone away cures the illness. (If you’re always worried that being unavailable will harm your social status, just setting the phone down will probably cause even more stress.)

False. What else can I wear that is as comfortable as pajamas but also looks like I give a fuck?

I once got asked and taken on a date in the public library (there was an attached coffee shop) by a guy who turned out to be homeless.

I imagine that the ideal response would be for her to let the original footage air and then have a follow-up where she says something to the effect of “I’m not proud of my original reaction and I’d like to apologize...” but that’s really a whole lot of vulnerability even when you’re not on camera.

I’d probably suggest filing a grievance with the bar association. It’s not gonna get the client anywhere but it can be a huge pain in the ass for the lawyer so that might be satisfaction enough.

I’ve seen a lot of girls in juvenile halls and that’s immediately what it makes me think of. That means the white girls too. That’s not what makes it racist. What makes it racist, is that this blogger used “going to jail” as a punchline which immediately exposes her as someone out of touch with the reality of mass…

First, I think you should proofread it (or ask someone else to) - get your spacing and capitalization consistent. Smart people care about this. Also, get over not messaging people first, it’s an awkward thing and it’s hard for everyone but someone has to do it. It’s even better to send a lot of messages and that way…

It’s not so crazy because I didn’t actually go through with it, but I got as far as shopping for plane tickets online to go to Vegas to meet up with - AND MARRY - a different ex.

I just don’t understand your point. When you read the whole policy (at page 39 of the linked document), do you find other parts of it objectionable? I was under the impression that this entire dispute was about the prohibition of “spaghetti straps” and their ostensibly feminine connotation.

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