I’ve been using talkspace.com for a few months now and I really like it! I have a very responsive therapist and I recommend checking it out.

But you don’t apologize in order to make things right for whatever you think you might want in the future, you apologize because you did an unkind thing. That’s it. Then you leave him in peace.

Did you see that scene in the last season of Girls? The context is not important, but what happens is boy rejects girl saying “I don’t think you’re right for me” and girl says “I’m not who you think I am.” Boy says “I think you’re exactly who I think you are. I don’t think you’re who you think you are.”

This strikes me as really manipulative: ultimately what you’re doing is presenting yourself in a calculated way to control the perceptions and reactions of others. And that is, for me, exactly the opposite of who I want to know myself as (and be known as).

I agree with you (and I’m a feminist and labor activist by training). This is work that is systematically undervalued in our society - likely because it’s the sort of work that women do now and historically, women have been expected to do for free. There is no shame in domestic work and one step towards increasing the…

I went to a non-Chicago university with a Pritzker kid and I always wonder just what he did to fuck that up.

My (now ex) boyfriend was coming back from a weekend trip early in the morning with a friend. He asked if I could pick them up at the airport around 6am and drop them both off at work which I didn’t mind doing. I even stopped on the way and bought them both coffee and bananas since they didn’t have time to go home…

My ex was 39 and had a roommate. And also, his bedroom had no door. I think you can fill in the rest yourself.

This is 100% true. It's also the #1 indicator that you are Not Boyfriend Material.

There are a lot of reasons to participate but one big one is that standardized tests and all their accompanying preparation and anxiety are part of just about any academic pathway that a kid might head down. Not counting the SATs and ACTs just to go to college - you’ve got to take the MCAT to go to med school or the…

Oh, I can admit that it’s no accident that now I drive a very nice car and carry a very nice handbag. (Not really out of reach for me with my current income, but certainly not necessities.)

This starts so early. I was always the kid with the less-cool version of whatever the must-have thing was. (Purely for reasons of being poor and it being even slightly cheaper and my mom trying to do her best.) And honestly, it’s taken me a long time to live down that feeling.

And I was seriously disappointed with that behind. Doesn't even count as a booty.

If you’re a nice and normal person, you’re going to get along with a lot of people. Only a small fraction of them are people you could/should date. A good relationship is more than “getting along” and you should be aiming for more, too.

Chill is the domain of the young (and the eternally immature). Once you hit mid-30s, chill is another word for paralyzing fear of intimacy and/or commitment. Some people are comfortable in that space for a lifetime, but if you’re on the receiving end of it and you want more, it’s time to start calling it what it is.

I can’t bear to watch the video but I am so damn glad that someone made one. There should be a reward for whoever filmed this.

But NO ONE said that you must defer. “The problem we have here is that people insist that you defer...” No. No one insisted on that. You created a problem where there wasn’t one just to have something to argue with.

Could you point me to the place where I (or anyone else in this thread) “insisted” that you “must” defer any time someone with more experience disagrees with you? Or are you just arguing with a point that I didn’t make?

Then by your own reasoning, why would your individual observation be the slightest bit meaningful? You’re also just one person.

It has never in my life happened to me that someone with a lived experience that contradicted or added unanticipated nuance to my opinion did not have “good reason”. It’s an unnecessary qualifier which only exists to provide an out for people who want to persist in their perceptions despite a contrary narrative from…