The point is not “I’m unqualified” but rather “I have an opinion but I also am prepared to defer to the judgment of people who have the first-person lived experience.”

It’s true! People don’t have more sex the longer they’re together. Unless he’s getting sober or otherwise going through some very intensive internal reformatting, you need to accept this as-is.

I learned that lesson (the hard way, obviously) - years later when I was teaching elementary school, I always made sure to tell my students that if it was an emergency, it’s ok to just go. You can explain when you get back.

I was in sixth grade at a new school and I wasn’t feeling great in my social studies class (with the cute young teacher, too). We were working on an assignment so I walked up to the front of the room to ask if I could be excused to the restroom. And when I opened my mouth to ask, I puked all over his desk.

When I was a junior associate at a very big law firm, a senior female associate (who is now a partner) used to compliment my clothes a lot. Once I was in her office to discuss a case and she said to me, in front of a female partner, “you always look so good - can I hire you to buy my clothes for me?” Lady, I have a…

Prolly the library? I hear they sometimes do that kind of thing.

My mom kept a fake "microsoft technician" on the phone for at least 40 minutes once doing this. "Which identification code do you need? Where is it? Oh, do you have it? Could you read it to me; hold on I don't have a pen... What do you mean I can't call microsoft back about this?"

Hasn't Common been with Serena Williams for a while? Or did I miss that breakup?

You know you better than anyone else does. And I encourage you to try to open up with this new person - just don't forget that she's a person with emotional needs and expectations too.

I don't think you need to give up on it, but I do think you should be honest with her (and yourself). I recently had a very sad breakup with someone who is depressed - he goes to therapy but is unmedicated - and it really came down to his being unable to become fully emotionally vulnerable, no matter how much we both…

Keep your scar out of the sun! Put sunscreen over it and maybe even a bandage or wrap. It's sun exposure that really 'sets' a scar.

"Do you want me to take out the trash?" is my biggest pet peeve. Oh no, please don't. I was saving that trash and really looking forward to taking it out myself.

It hurt but it wasn't unbearable. I then had cramping for a few weeks after but nothing that I couldn't manage with some motrin and a heating pad.

Oh girl, you gotta get yourself out of this. Time and distance is the only way. Future you will be so thankful! (And maybe future you will be able to be friends with him, but not until you've had some time to heal first.)

I have some exes that I've been able to be friends with but this won't be one of them. It's this strange paradox: what he did was one of the worst things anyone has ever done to me in a relationship, it was also the most generous thing he'd ever done for me - since now I can move on to something better.

The best part is that he wanted to "take a break." I told him to come get his things. I got a generic email on my birthday which I did not respond to and I assume that he's gotten the message. He's selfish, but he's not stupid.

I am six weeks post blindside-breakup and want nothing more than for my ex to vaporize into nothingness and be annihilated forevermore. I already have plenty of friends.

If you're worried that your drinking is a problem, it probably is.

I hope the door doesn't hit him on the way out.

There are a lot of possibilities here but only one answer: be 100% supportive.