In straight porn, the sex looks terrible. In other words, most of the time it’s patently obvious that what’s happening isn’t pleasurable (it either looks as effective as somebody poking someone’s elbow, or it looks painful), and it’s obvious that the woman is faking it.

This man did care. His mother was brought to tears.

Which makes it all his fault. If he had asked her to show him her breasts and followed her refusal with a demand to get out of the car, it would be the same thing - and his fault, completely.

She wasn't obligated to put out the cigarette, just as she wouldn't have been obligated to put on some lipstick for him. She's not at fault. He controlled the situation and steered it into a violent direction for no reason. No reason at all.

She is without fault. He asked her a question about her feelings and she answered. He asked her to put out her cigarette, and she didn’t. His response should have been to give her the warning and move on.

When I think of polysorbate 80, I always think of those old Breyers commercials. For all their claims of simple ingredients, I always preferred the cheapest $1 blue box ice cream - if it’s vanilla.

That’s the only solution ;)

The cherry pitter is the dumbest thing in my kitchen. It doesn’t work. It always misses the pit. It’s easier to get one’s hands messy and use a knife to slice the cherry and pull out the pit.

There’s nothing wrong with that :)

And again, I say that class has no bearing on the double standards that minority men and women face. Your initial idea that physical attractiveness and social class helps mitigate that effect is false. You said that ugly poor women wearing “black” styles are ridiculed; while rich, attractive women are accepted.…

any observations about the way that the culture treats them need to carefully tease

However, class doesn’t really impact things. As others have pointed out, being wealthy and/or educated does not insulate black people from the effects of racism. In some ways, it can place them front and center in the midst of it, because there’s a perception that black people don’t belong in those spaces. Hence…

It’s not all about class, though. Vanessa Williams was handed a plate by another guest at a White House dinner, after performing, because that guest thought that that “heteronormatively attractive woman” dressed in evening clothes was there to serve her. That teenage girl in a bathing suit who was thrown down by that…

Oh, it’s <i>exhausting</i>. It’s exhausting. Do you know what’s really exhausting? Being the target of racism and fetishization. Trying to fit into a system that hates you. That’s what’s exhausting. Not being told that your surgery filled lips, your fake “disses and dats,” and your booty tooch poses - when we all have…

No, I said that the Dead fans were upset that they were getting arrested for breaking the law, and band members asked the police not to crack down. Three people were arrested at the concerts - I suspect, far fewer than the users. My problem is with the attitudes about drug use among whites vs. drug use among blacks.…

She’s making millions participating in this system. She also has black relatives that she’ll harm with her attitude. So no, I’d be happy if she didn’t profit by fetishizing black female attributes, even getting surgery and fooling other white women into bruising their lips and drawing clown makeup on their faces.

I’m not concerned about Kylie at all. She’s the one participating in a system that would degrade and belittle a black woman for dressing and acting exactly as she does, and when she does it, it’s considered cool. The same way that when white people use drugs, they are considered to have a medical problem (or just be…

In my local Subway, there are signs directing people to skip this/add that for more low fat or low calorie options.

A professional makeup artist should carry a foundation palette that carries an array of tones that she can mix and max. Not 50 bottles of consumer grade foundation, but professional grade cosmetics. They offer that stuff from Ben Nye, Kryolan - not sure why MUAs at Fashion Week for Pete’s sake wouldn’t have that.

Ugh. I make like Dame Joan Collins and do my own makeup, because after paying $50 for the makeup artist at my brother’s wedding, I do it myself. I know my own face, and I can apply makeup to it much better than anyone else can. I ended up having to touch it up afterward anyway, so it was a waste of time and money.