I guess in 30 years of feminist activism, I have never met a woman who calls herself a feminist but "clearly isn't" (if only because there is no orthodox definition). I've met self-described feminists I've disagreed with on this or that issue, but I believe the "women who give feminism a bad name" are a mostly…

I'm not sure what part of my comment you're responding to, but if you don't like any "equality" label that favors one side, I assume you must be livid about society's status quo, wherein what passes for "equality" in fact grossly and quantifiably favors men over women. (And whites over everyone else, rich over poor,…

Yeah, I did a bit of a double-take when she said the women "volunteered" to be in the video. I don't think she's clear on the concept of making a living in capitalist society.

If the young women (and not so young women), not to mention men, who reject the label "feminist" nonetheless said what needed to be said and did what needed to be done, I would agree that the label would not matter, but there are (mostly male) anti-feminist Thought Police who pounce on every word and deed that might…

Smart kids, smarter than the so-called grown-ups who made the video. And it is certainly refreshing to hear a teen come out and call herself a feminist without equivocation. I just read a paper by one of my students (a college senior) last night in which she spent the better part of a paragraph explaining that she…

Business socks time. :D

Ha-ha! Yeah, that would be awkward. My own is grown and off to college. My own feeling is that time for just the two of you, sans child, is essential. The hard part is not spending that precious time talking about your child!

My wife is 37 and I'm 48, so about the same as you two. One time last year we pretty much had sex all day long. I came six times and we stopped counting her orgasms after 20. My marriage is awesome.

This reads like parody. I know that politicians tend to be narcissists, but most have the sense to at least try to not look like narcissists. That a man in his mid-to-late twenties could imagine 1) that anyone—even his own mother—could possibly care about his truckloads of shit, and 2) that this could do anything but…

It was *very* relevant, and thank you for that information. The fact that the so-called Tubman character in the skit gets the better of the slave owner does not change the fact that the skit trivializes both Tubman's suffering and her achievements. Maybe someday, when America enjoys true racial equality (and at this…

You have brilliantly captured the great conundrum of gender and heterosexuality.

I have a Y chromosome, and nothing more fully guarantees that I will not buy a product than to package it in a manly way. Every time I see their black or gray or metallic packages with their fake rivets I feel my intelligence has been insulted, I am reminded of everything I loathe in this world, and for the zillionth…

Now I have an urge to see my wife in something like this. Hmm... Maybe I'll break out the sewing machine and try to make a knock-off.

The first time I married, I insisted on an androgynous wedding. We both wore white, my blouse had an all-lace back, we both carried bouquets, and I had a flower in my shoulder-length hair. I have no doubt that there were guests there who thought I looked like a freakish drag queen, and if I had done that today, no…

True. But I'm not sure how that would justify dismissing what I had written as "mansplaining" without touching on the substance of what I wrote, unless "mansplainer" has become a useful pejorative for telling anyone with a Y chromosome (but who is, inconveniently, not an outright sexist) to shut up.

This is the most beautifully written thing I've read on the Internet in quite a while. Thank you.

I have a Y chromosome and my passport says I'm male. It's actually a lot more complicated, but I don't feel like going into the private details of my gender identity here, particularly with people who are already hostile to me.

And now I feel like a schmuck. Sorry, Laura!

Oh! That went completely over my head. I thought it was a snark on her Munster-ish make-up (which I also like). Thank you!