I definitely think that women are generally better looking than men. And I think most people would agree. There just plain are more good looking women than good looking men. It isn't even close. I'm not saying this to insult men, it's just the truth. This is female privilege I am pointing out.

There is a man in the grays here who says his girlfriend is a self proclaimed "good girl," perhaps as a way of conveying her boringness. The JayZ quotation about having to dazzle women made me think about boredeom. This post is based on how women feel compelled to be "good" to appeal to men, and the author…

Who is the 2nd girl? Are you referring to the deceased fetus?

Your post exemplifies how we as a society need to have more mature conversations about sex and gender. Men need to understand how hurtful and pointless it is to divide women as good and bad, or sluts and non-sluts.

True, the more beautiful a woman is, the more she is forgiven for being boring. It is also true that the more interesting a man is, the more he will be forgiven for being ugly. Women are generally better looking than men. And I definitely know unattractive, uninteresting women who have boyfriends. I do not know…

In this usage, "good girl" really is a misnomer since the women in question aren't really doing anything good, they are just not really doing anything. Unless you're in prison, the absence of behavior does not equal good behavior.

It is interesting that you use the word "boring" since that is the gender issue I think of the most. Women are expected to be "good," and not "bad." JayZ says it himself, men are expected "to dazzle, " to "be cool." Women are not expected to be cool, in fact women get away with being boring, all the time. This…

I assume you meant to include the word "not" before "treat" in your first sentence. Even then, I think that a person who does not treat people shittily is not good enough to be good in my book. Unless you're in prison, the absence of behavior is not good behavior.

I am a man. This comment is about men.

Yeah, I didn't understand that sentence at all. I had the same reaction as you.

To the surprise of no one. It would be more surprising if she had zero white friends. That is why, "Believe it or not, I have white friends, it happens, especially in this economy" is a joke without a grain of truth and falls flat.

As a joke, it completely falls flat. There is not one grain of truth in it.

An extreme minority (Indian American) having white friends is not the same thing as a majority person (White) having minority (black, or Jewish) friends. The joke just doesn't make sense.

Jokes are only funny if there is some truth in the joke. There is no truth in that joke. It would be like saying, "Yes, I am Indian, but I don't live in a box under an overpass. I know, isn't that shocking?" What? Nobody thinks that, so it's not funny.

I think people are exaggerating their own oppression and marginalization, particularly with the Mindy Kaling thing.

"Believe it or not, I do have white friends."

I can see where you're going with that, but I think the similarity ends with their appearances. Those two performers have totally different styles and personalities.

Asians (East, South, whatever) still are a pretty small minority in this country. Also, I really question how many of us are pursuing careers in showbiz. That said, for those who do there are significant roadblocks, particularly for Asian men. Asian women are often seen as interchangeable for white women, so a lot…

I was thinking that, as well as....

I definitely do realize that not all women do that. But I think that is an absolutely horrible argument. If "Not All Women do That" is a valid argument then most of feminism can be flushed down the fucking toilet since, "Not All Men Do" whatever point such a feminist is making.