Yeah, you haven't been an asshole (yet) but I mostly hear explainer guy (mansplaining, if you're familiar with the term) in your responses. Like, I've heard it a bunch from dudes who are privileged enough not to have to deal with rape culture or sexism.

Yeah, I figured. Not that you were/are being an asshole about anything but your comments in this discussion come from a privileged place. Maybe you don't buy into rape culture because you don't have to confront it every day the way a woman does.

Right, exactly. You gotta work through the shittiness somehow and not all of us feel better by watching pouncing kittens on YouTube.

I know it's hard to make sense of this kind of tragedy because holy crap, it is terrible but making the connection between this terrible thing and violent movies seems retrograde: a throwback to Tipper Gore's crusade against music she thought was inspiring violence in youth.

Just out of curiosity, are you a dude?

Making an informed, educated decision to have a glass of wine while pregnant or nursing is not a risk at all, not even minimally.

I didn't see anything in this article telling Mayer how to do her job, only a lesson on how to *talk* about doing her job.

You guys, I am obsessed with New Girl. That show is SO GOOD. You know how Modern Family makes you go all, "Awww, family!" New Girl makes you go all "Awww! Friendship!"

I was only agreeing with ad infinitum, above, who was arguing that what a person says in passing or off the cuff is probably an even more accurate representation of how they feel than prepared remarks. But you your point: the article was expressing disappointment that an intelligent, good looking actor we've all…

See, also: Daniel Tosh, Michael Richards, etc

More like opining than complaining? I take my job seriously, too. I'm just saying, in my opinion, *I* would like to see Johnny Depp is something less fussy.

So, are you saying we're in a post-rape culture society? Like, we've grown past it even though we still police women's bodies with moral judgment and legislation? Rape culture is still a real thing and it's not "pretentious" to talk about it like it's still a thing.

Eh, more opining than complaining.

No, it's actually a legit feminist theory thing. You should read about it.

Seriously. I would love him all over again if he would do some fun/stupid rom-com with Katherine Heigl or similar. Like, loosen up, jeez. It doesn't always have to be "Acting!!" Also see: Daniel Day Lewis, Leonardo DiCaprio. Relax, guys.

This was a couple of days ago and I'm sorry to have not replied sooner, but there is a very real rape culture here in America and American women can never turn a blind eye to it. Rape culture isn't just about the physical act of rape—it's the way the spectre of rape is held up as a way to keep women following rules.…

I think in the case of such a dramatic weight loss, it would be fine to say something since no one loses that much weight without serious effort. She might have been disappointed you didn't say anything. You might try something like, "Wow, you've lost a ton of weight!" That way, you're acknowledging the change without…

Hey, there, you're a racist piece of shit. FUCK YOU

This is the best article I can give you re: rape culture: http://kateharding.net/2009/10/08/guest-blogger-starling-schrodinger%E2%80%99s-rapist-or-a-guy%E2%80%99s-guide-to-approaching-strange-women-without-being-maced/

Good rule of thumb if you want to teach your kids that violence is never the answer: don't hit them.